Kate McCay

Robbie Byrne

2011-05-26T09:42:00.002-05:00

Sweet Robbie entired my life as my very first nephew 6 years ago today. He instantly stole the heart of every member of our family. Little did we know how short of time we would have with him... I am so thankful that I had the chance to spend an entire summer as his 'nanny.' I love this little guy and look forward to the day when I can see him again.

It's a Bunny

2011-04-19T13:51:00.002-05:00

So of course we need to make a stupid video every once in a while in our student ministry...so here is the latest:) Enjoy

Bunny from Second Students West on Vimeo.

Dance Your Shoes Off

2011-04-12T11:49:00.002-05:00

This past weekend, thousands of Second Baptist Church members gathered together to celebrate the Resurrection of our Savior! Check it out here:

unBELIZEable

2011-03-24T10:48:00.011-05:00

As I mentioned previously, the high school students of Second Baptist Church went to Belize this year for our spring break mission trip. There were a total of 90 students/leaders that went on this trip, 24 students in my particular group from the West Campus. We had an incredible week serving others and shining the light of Christ! I wanted to share a few pictures of our trip:

This was our West Campus group after the fun festival/revival service we led in downtown Orange Walk, Belize.

During the week, our group worked with a local church in San Pablo, Belize. We helped Pastor Ismael (in the picture with a white hat on) finish the side shed of the church by pouring concrete and moving LOTS of dirt/sand. Pastor Ismael and his family prepared authentic Belize food for our group every afternoon for lunch. They were such sweet and loving people. We are truly blessed to have had the opportunity to see what God is doing through this amazing man of God in Belize.

Every afternoon, we would go to the school in San Pablo where were would lead each class in games, songs, and crafts. During the time each of our students would share their testimony with the church and share the love of Christ with them! The children LOVED our students. As we would approach the school every afternoon, they would come running and cheering! I was so proud of our students and their sweet hearts for these young children. After working hard every day, they still managed to muster up some energy to run around and be crazy with a hundred elementary age students:)

God really revealed alot to me personally as well as our entire team. It was so encouraging and eye opening to see how God is and has been working in Belize even before we ever stepped foot in that country. I was so blessed to be a part of His bigger picture and was truly challenged to keep an eternal perspective always.

One of the most memorable moments was when we had the opportunity to see a man that we had met earlier that day and invited to the revival service that night, give his life to Christ. What a memory!

Some little fun extras that we did while we were in Belize:

Toured the Mayan Ruins: this was truly awesome to see and climb on these huge pyramids built thousands of years ago.
Crocodile Hunting: of course this was just for the adult leaders and I honestly cant believe that I wanted to be a part of this, but it was definitely a memorable experience.

BELIZE 2011

2011-03-11T11:12:00.003-06:00

The High School Ministry of Second Baptist Church is headed to Belize this Sunday for a week long mission trip! This is the first overseas mission trip that the student ministry has taken(atleast as long as I've been here) and we are crazy excited for it. We will be staying at La Estima in Orange Walk City, Belize. To stay in touch with us over the trip be sure to check our http://www.secondstudents.org/ and read the updates and posts on our blogs! Hope your spring break is as amazing as mine, although I highly doubt it :)

REAL girls: DIY crafts

2011-03-09T08:02:00.000-06:00

I just thought I would share some of the fun DIY crafts we have done at REAL girls this year! I know that I love finding new easy ideas so hopefully this might help you! If you have any fun easy crafts for girls let me know! I'm open to any and all ideas :)

1. Fringe Scarf: This was really easy! I found this idea (and several others at http://www.psimadethis.com/ ) I told all the girls to bring their own fun colored/patterned tshirt to REAL girls and then we followed the step by step instructions from this 'How to Video'

2. Hair Loofah?? :)

Oh yes we did make these! I had a girl from our highschool ministry show us howt omake these fun hair accessories! We actually used a needle, thread, and some fun colored tulle!

3. SUPER EASY Tie Tye Shirts!

I've made tie dye shirt before, using the old rubberbands and dipping in colored dye method before and that is DEFINETLY not any easy breezy method. SO, I found a way easier and more practical way to do this for a large group of girls! This was a definite HIT!

Heres a fun easy instructional video:

We have done several other fun ideas, but I will share those at a later date! Like I said, feel free to share any ideas you may have with me!

Baby Mama

2011-03-07T13:51:00.003-06:00

Well it's time for the world to know, Oscar and I are expecting a little one. Our due date is scheduled for September 7, 2 days after my little sister and her husband. This is our latest ultrasound at 13 weeks...aww, look at the sweet little bean.

Both of my sisters are pregnant, Lauren - who is expecting TWINS!!! and Carrianna - who is expecting her first child also! This is a fun time in our lives:)

Second Baptist Church: New Member Video

2011-03-03T09:39:00.002-06:00

This video is absolutely powerful and shows how God is working in the lives of individuals of all ages across the city of Houston! Grab a kleenex before you push play!

New Member Stories 2011 from Second Films on Vimeo.

REAL girls 2011: MarveloUS Journey

2011-01-06T09:59:00.004-06:00

REAL girls is starting up again this spring semester for the Second Students at the West Campus of Second Baptist Church. I am super excited about the big 'PLANNING MEETING' (aka: slumber party) with 20+ girls on our High School Leadership Team this next weekend! I can't wait to dream and develop some great ideas with all these amazing girls. Hopefully my little apartment doesnt burst at the seems and my husband doesn't jump out of the 3rd story window:)

This semester REAL girls is going on a journey..a marvleoUS journey:) When a you choose to accept the gift of Christ and put your faith in God, you begin the Christian journey. You don't know what all this journey will entail, it might leave you feeling uncomfortable at times, maybe pull you away from things that you have always known, it may sound bizarre and crazy to the people around you. However, when you begin this Journey your destination is certain, you are well equipped for everything that this journey holds, your Guide will never leave you or forsake you, and this will be one MARVELOUS journey.

Over the semester we will be discussing lots of topics related to the Christian Journey! I can't wait to get to know so many of the girls within our student ministry, to see them grow closer to God and understanding what He has in store for them, and growing personally in my relationship with Him!

Ill keep you posted!

Houston Dining: Review #2

2010-12-13T11:03:00.010-06:00

#1 Christie's Seafood & Steaks A family owned and operated seafood spot in Houston for close to 90 years. It is very well-known and widely talked about, so we just had to go see what all the fuss was about.

Location: Westheimer (1 mile WEST of the Galleria)

Environment: While there are white table cloths and cloth napkins, Christie's still has a very casual atmosphere.

Food: The food was nothing out of the ordinary. Oscar summed it up as average. For an appetizer we ordered the Fried Mini Crab Balls. Apparently those are the hot item on the menu. They were average. Our main entrees were...you guessed it - average.

Service: Okay, I promise I'm not trying to be negative...just being honest, but the service was also AVERAGE. The waiter did not seem to know much of the menu or be able to answer any questions that we had.

Price: Our main entrees were $25.00 a piece...which I would say is mighty high for an 'average' place.

Recommendations: We decided to try Christie's on Oscars birthday, because we both love seafood and trying new restaurants. Sometimes we love places and sometimes we don't. This time we didn't love it. However, dont take my word for it, give it a try and tell me your thoughts!

#2 Kublai Khan: This is exactly what the sign says 'Crazy Mongolian Stir Fry'. You can create your own stir fry meal and they will cook it up for you!

Location: We went to the one located on Westgreen and I-10 in Katy.

Environment: Very fun environment. Dim lighting, loud music, and very authentic 'Mongolian' decor (if there is such a thing).

Food: This is where Kublai Khan will win or break your heart. You create your own stir fry dish choosing from a wide variety of ingredients! You first choose your veggies: carrots, peas, tofu, onions, peppers, zucchini, almonds, etc... They have many great options!
Then you pick your meat which also comes in a wide variety: white meat chicken, beef, octopus (which looks like bologna I might add), shrimp, crab meat, etc... This is where you might struggle. All the RAW meat is laid out before you and for those who don't cook or have problems with raw meat, well you might not love this option. Lastly you choose your sauces and seasonings that you want your meal to be cooked in. It really is a fun experience. The portions are HUGE and are very hard to finish!

Price: The price is very reasonable! It is 9$ for the lunch. We ordered ours, ate until our tummy was content, and still had enough for another meal to take home!

Recommendation: I would definitely recommend this fun spot for a change to your normal 'dining out' experience. The food is great, the price is great and the environment is fun and relaxed!

#3 Berripop: A little Texas Frozen Yogurt chain.

Location: This review is from the one in La Centerra of Katy and one in City Centre of Houston.

Environment: a fun, fresh, bright and 'hip' yogurt spot. Frozen yogurt just got cooler.

Food: 'Fro-Yo' , as the cool kids say, is definitely a healthy alternative to ice cream. They offer several different flavors of yogurt and many different toppings ranging from the healthy fruits and granolas, to delicious chocolaty candy bar pieces. The original yogurt flavor is very authentic to plain yogurt and has a rather 'sour' taste to it that some people either love or hate (I love). I got the original with granola and strawberries. It was DELICIOUSO.

Price: The price is pretty comparable to any other dessert stop. Of course it varies with size and toppings.

Recommendations: If Ice cream and 'Fro-Yo' got into a taste battle, a big bowl of ice cream would win every time. However, if you have a sweet tooth (I have 3) and need a healthy treat, I highly recommend Berripop!! Super yummy treat!

2010-12-08T14:21:00.003-06:00

Disclaimer: I pasted the article from Christian Post

Somali Teenage Girl Shot to Death for Embracing Christ
By Compass Direct News

NAIROBI, Kenya (CDN) - A 17-year-old girl in Somalia who converted to Christianity from Islam was shot to death last week in an apparent “honor killing,” area sources said.

Nurta Mohamed Farah, who had fled her village of Bardher, Gedo Region to Galgadud Region to live with relatives after her parents tortured her for leaving Islam, died on Nov. 25. Area sources said they strongly suspected that the two unidentified men in Galgadud Region who shot her in the chest and head with a pistol were relatives or acting on their behest.

“Reports reached the relatives in Galgadud that Nurta Farah had converted to Christianity,” one source said. “The suspicion that the family is responsible is a solid one. The sister was killed in Abudwaq, a district in Galgadud Region, and the place where the incident took place is about 200 meters from where the sister was staying with relatives.”

Relatives buried Farah, sources said. Her parents had severely beaten her for leaving Islam and regularly shackled her to a tree at their home, Christian sources said. She had been confined to her home in Gedo region in southern Somalia since May 10, when her family found out that she had embraced Christianity, said a Christian leader who visited the area.

Her parents also took her to a doctor who prescribed medication for a “mental illness,” he said. Alarmed by her determination to keep her faith, her father, Hassan Kafi Ilmi, and mother, Hawo Godane Haf, decided she had gone crazy and forced her to take the prescribed medication, but it had no effect in swaying her from her faith, the source said.

Traditionally, he added, many Somalis believe the Quran cures the sick, especially the mentally ill, so the Islamic scripture was recited to her twice a week.

She had declined her family’s offer of forgiveness in exchange for renouncing Christianity, the source said. The confinement began after the medication and punishments failed.

Area Christians had reported that Farah was shackled to a tree by day and put in a small, dark room at night.

Somalia’s Transitional Federal Government generally did not enforce protection of religious freedom found in the Transitional Federal Charter, according to the U.S. Department of State’s 2010 International Religious Freedom Report.

“Non-Muslims who practiced their religion openly faced occasional societal harassment,” the report stated. “Conversion from Islam to another religion was considered socially unacceptable. Those suspected of conversion faced harassment or even death from members of their community.”

I am humbled. I know nothing of what it means to suffer for the Cross. God teach me to live a life worthy to bear Your Name! This story reminds me of Paul's words in Romans 8:31, "If God is for us, who can ever be against us?"

HAPPY Birthday Cutes!

2010-12-06T15:04:00.009-06:00

This past Saturday was the day of the birth of MY CUTES! I am so thankful that he was born. God has brought us together in a truly amazing way! On December 4, 1984 Oscar was born in Guadalajara, Mexico, 2 months premature!! It is so amazing to see how He brought us together from two completely different places.

While we were in Tennessee for Thanksgiving, Oscar went repelling/rock climbing with 'the guys' of the family. They hiked along some pretty scary trails and did some repelling as well. Needless to say, HE LOVED IT!

SO, for his birthday, it was pretty clear what he wanted. I took him to REI (an outdoor store) and he picked out lots of new rock climbing gear. When we got home I made him model it for me. Isn't he just so cute?!

We decided to go test our skills at an indoor rock climbing wall. It was a lot of fun and we learned a little more. We had a great weekend and I am so thankful for my sweet Husband. He really is my favorite pal.

Little Miss Greedy

2010-11-10T09:41:00.008-06:00

Ever had one of those mornings when God hits you in the head with His Truth?! Yeah, that seems to be happening a whole lot more now that I'm married. This morning I came across this question, " In what ways is your life unlike that of the ordinary unbeliever?"

Good question. The first things that came to my mind were external lists of the 'do's & dont's' that I live by: I go to church, I don't party-like-a-rock-star, I have a cross necklace, blah blah blah... However, God wasn't really interested in that puny little list and He kept digging. I began to read Luke 12 (great chapter btw full of practical topics taught by Christ) and this verse stuck out to me: Luke 12:15, " Watch out! Be on your guard against all kings of greed; a man's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions."

I would dare to say that most Christians believe they have a good grip on the issue of greed. It isn't something that we necessarily struggle with day to day and is really just a problem limited to the people in Hollywood, REAL Housewives, and Wallstreet. At least that's what I would have said, prior to this morning. As I read Luke 12, practically skimming over it, God wouldn't let my eyes move from that verse! I read it once, twice, and then a third time. Several things stood out to me:

1. ..."all kinds of greed."

Greed is defined as excessive or rapacious desire especially for wealth or possessions. Denotes an excessive, extreme desire for something, often more than one's proper share. According to this verse, greed comes in different forms. Maybe it comes as success, the praise of others, someones approval, money, clothes, the perfect home, an obsession with your appearance, popularity, recognition...

For some reason, I normally associate the word 'greed' with the love of money. Since I have never really experienced the excess of money, I always felt that I am 'good-to-go' in this area of my Christian life. However, Jesus pointed out that there are 'all kinds of greed.' As I was reading, the Holy Spirit pointed out the 'kinds of greed' that make many appearances in my life everyday.

2. 'Jesus began speaking FIRST to His disciples...' (Lk 12:1)

While there was a very large group of people gathered around Jesus as He was speaking, His message was FIRST to His disciples. This message of 'greed' wasn't directed to just a large group of hypocritical pharisees but was directed to the disciples as well and the other members of the crowd. Sometimes when I read these parables, I see just how hypocritical I can be, reading these 'stories and commands' as though they are directed to OTHER people and that for some reason I am exempt. But Christ was speaking FIRST to His disciples and as Christians we become HIS disciples. We are called to live a life that is contrary to the sinful nature of the world. Greed is our natural reaction. When the Spirit of the Holy God dwells inside of us, we begin to fight the natural reactions of the flesh and allow His Power to be our satisfaction.

3. 'Watch out! Be on your guard...' (LK 12:15)

This is a constant, daily decision. As long as we live in this world we are direct targets of the ruler of this world. His (Satan's) goal is to blind us to believe that the temporary is permanent. The sad thing is, he doesn't even have to try that hard. Most of us fall for this lie every day in a multitude of ways, at least I know I do. But Jesus commanded us to 'watch out! be on your guard..'

Jesus encourages His disciples and everyone listening in vs 30-31, "For the pagan world runs after all such things [what we will eat or drink], and your Father knows that you need them. But seek His kingdom, and these things will be given to you as well."

I find those verses to be absolutely beautiful. Jesus says that our Father God isn't oblivious to the needs that we have. He wants to meet our needs and provide for us in amazing ways. The verses point out that the God of the universe cares for and meets the needs of the lilies and the sparrows (Luke 12:24-28). If He cares for such small, seemingly insignificant things, how much more does He care for us who are His children created in His image!? Jesus even goes to say that it is '[Our] Father has been pleased to give [us] the Kingdom.' (vs 32)

Greed for more money, possessions, approval, or recognition will only cause us frustration and leave us with unfullfilled desires. We must daily 'Watch out! Guard ourselves' from this life on dissatisfaction that permeates this world! We have Hope, Joy, and the very Love of Christ living in our lives. This love causes us to be grateful instead of greedy. This daily decision will cause us to stand out in a world of unbelievers. It will be the LIGHT that shines from our lives in this world of darkness and draws others to Him!

Roller Coaster Life!

2010-10-15T08:00:00.001-05:00

Let's all be real for a second, life is CRAZY. It's full of ups & downs and twists & turns sometimes leaving us pretty overwhelmed. God is faithful and uses these experiences in our lives to take us to places we would never have dreamed! This Sunday we begin our new series, Joseph: a roller coaster ride. You definitely do not want to miss this...seriously don't miss it. Hope to see you all there at 9:30 & 11:00 Second Baptist Church, West Campus!

Houston Dining

2010-10-11T11:09:00.016-05:00

The Cutes and I literally LOVE to eat. If we listed out our hobbies, "restauranteering" would be high on the list. I made that word up but I might start using it...ANYWAYS...eating different foods and enjoying the unique environments that restaurants offer is something we both simply enjoy! Since we are newlyweds, without children, and living in Houston, the 'mecca' of great food options, I decided to give some reviews from our travels! Maybe it will help you as you decide on your next place to enjoy a fun night out:)

Weekend Reviews (we eat out a lot on the weekend, so don't judge me)

#1 Brio : Tuscan Grill / Italian Food

Location: Located in City Centre, the new 'hip area in Houston full of nice dining options, stores, office spaces, and great apartments. We LOVE this hot spot and stop there often.

Environment: Casual White Cloth Dining. This location offers a great outdoor lounge and eating area. It is the perfect spot for these fall nights that we have been enjoying in Houston this past week. The indoor area is very elegant but extremely comfortable! Its not a stiff 'hoity-toity' place by any means!

Food: Delicious Italian Food. I am a firm believer that the 'pre-dinner' bread selection is the easiest way to sum up a dining experience - needless to say, they have a great bread assortment:) The Cutes ordered the Lobster Ravioli and loved it, although the portion was a little small in my opinion. I ordered the Chopped Salad (delicious) and the Parmesan crusted Eggplant (Delicious)

Service: Great service. Our drinks were never empty, bread basket always full, and order delivered prompt and perfect!

PRICE: Medium Price. The entrees range from $15 - $25

Recommendation: Check it out for a nice treat and relaxing evening! (Not exactly kid friendly)

#2 Las Alamedas: Restaurant & Cantina

Location: This is a famous restaurant in Houston that just recently relocated to Katy (the suburb where we now live, lucky us:) We randomly stumbled across this new restaurant in yet another fun shopping area..and we will definitely be back!

Environment: It was more 'fancy' then we anticipated. White cloth tables and rustic Spanish decor. I strolled in for dinner wearing jeans and a tank top and felt under dressed but definitely not unwelcome. We were seated in a very secluded booth and loved it. The tables in the dining area were very crowded together which I don't really like.

Food: Very authentic Mexican food, and I know that because my husband said so:) The brought out the typical chips 'n' salsa. The salsa was served warm and very tasty! We ordered the Ceviche' Costera to start off. It was very authentic and contained large bites of fresh shrimp, crab, and fish. For the main course, the Cutes ordered the Fajitas de Camarone (Shrimp Fajitas) and I had the Camarones Puerto Vallarta (Grilled Shrimp in Ancho pepper sauce) I thought Oscar was going to crawl under the table when I tried to order it in Spanish - I FAILED. Everything tasted delicious and embodied the many flavors common to authentic Spanish cuisine:)

Service: GREAT!

Price: It was pretty pricey for a 'random night out to eat'. Each entree cost approximately $25. However the portions were more than enough.

Recommendation: Great spot for some authentic Mexican food. We loved all the flavors and the authenticity of the menu options.

#3 Flora & Muse

Location: Also located in City Centre

Environment: This is the most unique place I have been to in a while! It is a bistro, patisserie, flower stand, coffee shop, and tea room all in one! The environment is PERFECT! Very casual with a European, whimsical vibe.

Food: The Cutes and I have stopped here before to grab coffee. However, Sunday we decided to have 'Brunch' there after church. Our order came out on little antique trays. Our meal came with a unique bread assortment, lamb sausage, bacon, eggs, and homemade preserves. We really enjoyed everything, especially the French Press!

Service: Unfortunately this was our only negative about this experience. The service really was horrible on the day we visited. Everyone was very nice and polite. However, it took forever for anyone to come take our order, for the food to be delivered, and when it was delivered things were missing. I doubt this is the 'norm' and we were probably there during a busy time. It will not deter us from coming back thats for sure!

Price: We both felt our food might have been overpriced for the portions that we were served. Each entree we ordered cost $14.

Recommendation: LOVE this place. If you just want to grab a coffee and muffin, pick up a fresh flower for your love, or visit with a friend over a unique lunch - I highly recommend you atleast visit this unique restaurant.

Wow, I really do love to talk about food...lets hope you like to read about it:)

Once Upon a Playhouse

2010-09-21T14:52:00.006-05:00

Ever since I was a little girl, I was fascinated by playhouses. I LOVE them. I remember having dreams about living in a playhouse town where everything was so tiny and cute!! I never grew out of that stage and still have a rather weird obsession with playhouses. Maybe its that everything is so small and as a child it was JUST MY SIZE! I could play for hours, maybe even days, in the tiny little house with the tiny little door, the cute flower boxes hanging out the perfect tiny window, and a few kitchen supplies.

My daddo has promised to build me one, once I supply him with a tiny little girl. We'll just see how soon that happens. Apparently, I am not the only person in the world with this obsession for playhouses. I stumbled across a few AMAZING playhouses. They are rather ostentatious but I just love them.

Happy Birthday Lil' Bro!

2010-09-15T09:32:00.006-05:00

18 Years ago the McCay family welcomed a new little brother to the already large family. I remember that day very well, and thanks to the oversized video camera our family invested in, we have great footage of this event!

Carrianna, Rob, and I all rode to the hospital with Dad to see the new addition to the family. I remember how excited we were to get out of school early! Dad drove so fast down the highway that we even passed a motorcycle (apparently that was a big deal to a 9 year old because I have a vivid memory of that moment).

Will was definitely a surprise to our family, but what a PERFECT gift God gave us. I love this little blonde haired boy.... I still view him as this first picture but he is now towering over everyone in the family!

I am so proud of Will! He is so talented, will try anything, has strong opinions and beliefs, hard worker, great student-very smart and diligent when it comes to school-he is hilarious and can always make us laugh! This past summer, Will worked at a Christian ranch in Colorado and had the time of his life! I know that God has HUGE plans for him and I am so excited to see where He leads!

Reasons why Will is so Legit:

1. He scares small children without even trying

2. He can scale a mountain in 5.5 seconds while holding a piece of pizza in both hands

3. He stills hugs me when I come home

4. He has survived 5 years with mom and dad as an only child..God bless you:)

5. He was the first McCay to attend a public school and have a working TV in their room. I tried to get those gigs for years...

Happy Birthday Wilbur, Willie Wonka, Will.I.Am, Willie-bo-billy! We LOVE your face off and thank the Lord for YOU!

Interior Personality Quiz

2010-09-09T13:41:00.002-05:00

Want to waist some time? I love colors and taking online quizzes.. and what do ya know, I found this fun quiz that helps show your paint color choices for your home that will help reflect who you are!

Color Personality Quiz

Media Case turned Buffet!

2010-08-23T10:46:00.012-05:00

I found this old piece of furniture at a consigment store in our area for only $30! It is a solid wood piece and is super heavy. Thanks to the muscles of the Cutes and a random apartment neighbor, it finally made it into our 3rd floor apartment (not an easy task). Apparently, this functioned as a media case back in its younger years.

The shelves had cassette tape plastic holders mounted on to them which were easily removed with a screw driver and some hard work.

After wiping it down and lightly sanding, we rolled on a coat of black paint to the body and accented the shelves with a punch of red. I love how it turned out! It provides us lots of space to display and store all the beautiful gifts we received! It also serves as a great place for a buffet (potenially, if I ever entertained a big enough crowd to 'need' a buffet)

CHEAP decorating

2010-08-18T11:14:00.011-05:00

The Cutes and I are presently living in a sweet 2 bedroom apartment. I have been putting off decorating, hanging pictures, and making things cute because we really weren't too sure how long we would be there. However, I can only take these sad bare walls and boxes of books for a so long.
So...this weekend Oscar and I got a little creative.

We really just focused on making our bedroom more 'homey' without spending lots of 'moo-lah'. First order of business was curtains! We have a very large window in our room and lots of sun in Houston!

My cute design friend in Houston told me how she had made drapes out of painters drop cloth. I loved the idea and we ran to Home Depot and bought 4 drop cloths (4ft x 9ft) at 9$ each, a curtain rod,
and some curtain hangers with clips. I clipped the curtain in folds to give it a 'faux-pleated' look. Then after hanging them I trimmed them off to the right length and turned the bottoms under with some fabric tape. Easy breezy and we really like it!

Second order of business was The Cute's old bookshelf. It is an old rattan piece of furniture that looks like it was out of an old beach house. We decided we would slop a little paint on the old guy and try to revamp it a little bit. I painted a small design on the shelf that mimicks our bedding print. It works great for what we needed, and we were able to unpack all the books and look a little more organized!

Im still looking for a great idea for over our bed: either a large picture, grouping of pictures, shelf, or something. So if you have any ideas send them my way!

I HEART YOU

2010-06-16T12:22:00.002-05:00

Join us this Sunday for our series called 'I Heart You' where we will discuss guy-girl relationships and all the drama that these relationships entail! Last Sunday, Jeremiah Ramer did a great job opening up the series talking about the topic of 'God made us like this!' Dont miss this Sunday!

BRX Daily Videos

2010-06-15T14:28:00.001-05:00

Here is a little glimps of High School BRX

Day 1

Day 2

Day 3

SECOND STUDENTS

2010-06-14T12:18:00.002-05:00

Well we made it back from High School Beach Retreat! What a fun week! This was the best Beach Retreat I have ever been a part of! To see some highlite videos and hear more about BRX check out our student website at www.secondstudents.org

I SURE DO!

2010-04-26T14:36:00.015-05:00

Well ladies and gents, I am now officially Kate Heidbreder and I could not be happier! Over the past two weeks I have been so blessed to actually have the opportunity to live out my dreams and have a real life fairytale to write about!

I was able to travel home the week before the wedding and spend some much needed time with my sweet family! I LOVE THEM! I wanted to take this opportunity to thank them individually for all their help, excitement, love, creativity, hardwork, and generosity that made this one of the best memories of my life!

Mom & Daddo: Without you two this beautiful wedding weekend would have been just a dream. Mom, thank you for all the organization (the calling, scheduling, planning, thinking, and creating) that you all on your own since I live way far away, for all the hardwork that you did that noone truly understands, the beautiful decorating, and the sweet love and support throughout the whole process. Daddo - thank you for being the sweet Dad that you have always been. Your excitement anticipating this big day meant so much to me! Thank you for building me the sweet cupcake stand and making it look EVEN BETTER than I dreamed. But even more than the actual work and labor preparing for the weekend, I want to thank you both for being my loving parents who have ALWAYS set before me a Godly example of love and marriage. I am truly blessed.

My sisters and brothers: I love my brothers and sisters!! They all played such an important role in celebrating our wedding! We not only love eachother, but we truly enjoy each other and have so much fun when we all actually get together! These are the characters that added 'The life to the party.'

Lauren & Bob: thank you for ALL the details! If anyone saw any cute detail or creative addition to the wedding you can thank Lauren. She not only helped me think of fun elements but she went as far as doing them herself! THANK YOU LAUREN! Bob - you did a fantastic job as DJ. I might just start calling you 'Sir Mix-alot' so be ready. Thank you for taking care of all the announcing and introductions that were necessary to make everything run smoothly!

Carrianna - thank you for the sweet support and putting all the wedding music together! You're sassy dance moves and great music selection made the wedding reception so much fun! I can't wait to help you over the next few months as we plan your dream wedding!

Rob & Beka - You are amazing! Thank you for opening up your home to the big ole family and just letting us use all of your space during the crazy, hectic wedding weekend! You were such a great hostess! Beka - Thank you also for getting your husband on the dance floor. Noone else in the world could have made that happen!:)

Sweet Willy - You may be 17 and way too-cool-for-school but you will always be my sweet willy. Thank you for dealing with mom over the past few months as she planned this crazy wedding:) haha..just kidding - thank you for stepping in at the last minute with some major wedding details! I am excited to see what God is going to do in your life this summer!

Oscar's Family:

Many people dont realize this but Oscar's family had to make the LOOONNGGG drive from LaFeria, Texas all the way up to Tennessee (about 20 hours!) in just a short weekend!

The Tennessee Folk experienced their first REAL FAJITA's at the rehearsal dinner and they are STILL talking about how delicious everything was. Thank you to all of my 'new sisters' for being a part of this special day! I love you all and i'm excited to be a part of this new family!

My best pal Ruthie

What a sweet friend I have! Ruthie just jumped in to help from the very moment she arrived in Tennessee! We have such a wonderful friendship that I am TRULY thankful for! It was so much fun celebrating this special time with my best pal! Thank you Ruthie being so kind and literally waiting on me hand and foot! You mean so much to me and I cant wait to reciprocate this kindness for you one day:)

My family (Aunts, Uncles, & Grandparents!:)

This wedding was really a FAMILY AFFAIR! Everyone had their hand in some area of the wedding helping to make it beautiful and fun! A special thank you to Gram & Aunt Jeannie as they threw me such a beautiful and dainty Bridesmaid's Brunch! They pulled out all the fineries and made me feel like a real-life princess.

My Mimi, Aunt Jan, & Aunt Karen threw me such a cute Family Wedding Shower. Thank you for all the sweet gifts, words of encouragement, and just celebrating with me! Aunt Jan - you all played such an important role in making everything run smoothly, so THANK YOU!! Than kyou all for your love and support!!

My Aunt Fairy and Aunt Mimi were such wonderful help putting all the details together for the Rehearsal Dinner! Thank you for opening up your home and adding all the extra touches! It was such a beautiful and fun time with family and friends.

The wedding was perfect, down to the last detail. But honestly it would have all been meaningless if it wasn't for one person - the groom. Today I want to thank Oscar, my Cutes. I love this man with my whole heart. Not only was this a beautiful event, but it was a precious day when I was so blessed to enter into a lifetime commitment with my Cutes:) Thank you Oscar, for showing up (haha) and for showing me such sweet love, being patient with me, your encouragement, your strength, and just being my teammate in life! I am so excited to see where God leads us together! What a blessed thing to walk in the footsteps of a loving God!

Oscar and I have so many more people to thank! But I just wanted to mention a few! What great memories we have. My only regret is that it went by WAY to quickly!! What a precious blessing to celebrate such a fun event with the people you love the most in the whole world!

Double Wedding??

2010-03-11T10:35:00.004-06:00

Well, well, well... it looks like the last of the McCay girls is finally on her way to the alter! My younger sister, Carrianna, got engaged this morning as she arrived home from work! I have suggested the idea of a double wedding but I am not sure if she is to keen on that idea...I know my dad would love it..oh my poor parents:)

Carrianna is a nurse and therefore works crazy weird hours. As she came home from her night shift this morning around 7, she walked in to see tons of rose petals leading to this cute note:
I dont want to share the whole story before she does, but I do want to give her a shout out! She has met an incredible guy and I am so excited to see how God uses them together! I love you Carrianna and I am so excited for you!

Tweak'd

2010-03-02T09:44:00.003-06:00

During the month of February, the 210 High School Student Ministry has been studying the book of 1 Timothy. This series is entitled 'Tweak'd', teaching the students what God's Word says about growing in our relationship with Christ in all areas of our life. To go along with this series we put together a few videos to keep the crowd laughing. Watch out students of Katy, Texas, because you just might get Tweak'd.

A Beautiful Mess

2010-01-14T10:32:00.005-06:00

Sometimes when you work with students or just in ministry at all, you question whether what you are doing is actually making a difference. It's SOOOOO easy to find yourself empty and discouraged. Recently, I experienced probably one of the biggest blessings and encouragement from one of my sweet friends - a girl who is now a freshman in college.

Back in October of 2008 I met a precious senior girl who was confused, angry, afraid, disillusioned and feeling very alone in this world. Her parents asked me to set up a meeting with her because of some serious things that had occurred. I did not know her at all and was very nervous about this meeting. I remember praying in the parking lot that God would give me the words to say and He would reveal His mighty love to her through our conversation. Little did I know that that one meeting would lead to a sweet friendship and 2 changed hearts. Upon meeting her I could see a girl who had been through a lot. She definitely did not have any easy life and upbringing. She was open and honest with me, but sounded hopeless and angry. Over the course of her senior year, we began to meet every week - talking about what was going on in our lives, going through God's Word together to seek answers to some very hard questions. Our relationship developed to be so much more than Mentor-Student, but we became friends!

This girl is so intelligent, an amazing writer, very creative and has big dreams. Over our year of meeting together I began to see her make hard decisions, begin to soften her heart toward God, read His Word, and consider giving Him control of her life. Upon graduating from high school, she attended beach retreat with our student ministry. It was there that she gave her life to Christ and was baptized. We didn't meet weekly anymore now that she was working hard and preparing for college. A few months after she began college, I read this beautiful note on her facebook page. My heart just filled with excitement and joy as I read the beautiful things that God was doing in her life:

Sweetly Broken

"There is something that stirs inside of my soul every time I see a crowd of people praising the Lord, I just can't explain it. Before I was saved, I was terrified to let God take over my life. I wasn't quite sure of what giving my life to him would mean, but now I know without a doubt in my mind that his love is all I will ever need. There are things that we do not need in our lives, and none of those things can give us the satisfaction that God can give. God gives me such a wonderful sense of peace. He fills my heart with more love than I could have ever imagined. You have to lay your life down before you can find it. God gives you life, he is love and he is the truth. There have been times in my life that I have been so low and completely given up on God, but he never gave up on me. I had to give up a life of selfishness, anger and pride to receive a new life, and a satisfied heart. If you are searching for happiness and love it is never too far away, just call on God. God is love. He is in everything that we do and everything that we say. Take the hand of Jesus and go through life knowing that you are loved. It is a beauty that I can not explain nor fathom.

1John 4:7-21 'Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son[b] into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for[c] our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us. We know that we live in him and he in us, because he has given us of his Spirit. And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in him and he in God. And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in him. In this way, love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment, because in this world we are like him. There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. We love because he first loved us. If anyone says, "I love God," yet hates his brother, he is a liar. For anyone who does not love his brother, whom he has seen, cannot love God, whom he has not seen. And he has given us this command: Whoever loves God must also love his brother.' "

"So it is nearing the end of the semester and I can't believe how wonderful it was. Back when I was filling out college applications and trying to figure out where I even wanted to go I remember feeling anxious about what college would be like. I did not know what to expect when I got here, I just hoped that I would stay out of trouble and make some decent friends. What I got in return was something so much greater than I could have ever imagined. I never thought that I would make such wonderful friends and I definitely never expected to find Jesus Christ in Huntsville, TX. I never realized how blind I was in life until he opened my eyes and made me see. He has changed my life for the better, I don't know how I ever lived without him. I see him in everything that I do, his love surrounds me. I used to live my life for myself, now all I want to do is live for him, to follow him where ever he leads me. One of the worst things we can do is to let this world get us down. We all have a past and have done things that we are no proud of. But nothing good will come out of dwelling in the past, give it all to God and instead live for the future, live for him. I have learned a great deal this semester. I have learned from God's amazing grace and the friends that he has put in my life. I want to love like Jesus to the best of my ability and let his light shine through me like I see it shine through certain people in my life. I have learned how to appreciate things more, especially those who I love and my have taken for granted in the past. No matter what happens in the future, I know that there is no need to be afraid because if I fall, I know that God will catch me and put me back onto my feet."

Matthew 5 1:161Now when he saw the crowds, he went up on a mountainside and sat down. His disciples came to him, 2and he began to teach them saying: 3"Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. 4Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted. 5Blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth. 6Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled. 7Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy. 8Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God. 9Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called sons of God. 10Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.11"Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of me. 12Rejoice and be glad, because great is your reward in heaven, for in the same way they persecuted the prophets who were before you.13"You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled by men.14"You are the light of the world. A city on a hill cannot be hidden. 15Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. 16In the same way, let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in heaven.

I know this is just the beginning for my sweet friend. God created her for big things and gifted her with so many talents and abilities. I can't wait to see what God does with this beautiful girl!

Christmas Time!

2009-12-09T15:09:00.006-06:00

This past Sunday, the 210 Student Ministry celebrated Christmas with all the volunteers. The theme was Tacky Christmas and everything was...well..Tacky. It was such a fun time. We had our student leadership team help us serve dinner and babysit the kids as a chance for them to serve their leaders! It was such a fun night! Here are a few snapshots:)

REAL girls go to DEWBERRY FARMS!

2009-11-06T13:01:00.002-06:00

This Sunday aftertoon, the REAL girls of 210 High School ministry are meeting at Dewberry Farms! This is such a fun FALL place where we can do a corn maze, hayrides, hot chocolate, pumpkins, and more:) So you DEFINITELY WANT TO BE THERE:)

When: Sunday, November 8 from 4-6 pm

Cost: 11$ Person plus any extra spending money
Your ticket includes a Hayride to pumpkin patch, Corn Maze, Barrel Train Ride, Hay Mountain, Giant Roller Slide, Black Mamba, etc..

Where: We will meet at Dewberry Farms
7705 FM 362, Brookshire, TX 77423
(281)934-3276

(Directions from the church to Dewberry farms are listed below)
1. Take I-10 W
2. Take the PEDERSON RD exit, EXIT 737.
3. Turn RIGHT onto PEDERSON RD. 0.5 mi
4. Turn LEFT onto US-90.
5. Turn RIGHT onto FM 2855. 6.1 mi
6. Turn LEFT onto FM 529/FREEMAN RD. 4.2 mi
7. Turn RIGHT onto FM 362/FM 529. 1.3 mi
8. End at Dewberry Farms 7705 FM 362 RD.

I love you girls and I hope you all can make it. Call/text me if you think you may need a ride. Let me know if you are planning on coming:) It's going to be funnnnnn....

When & Where: The Union of the Cutes and Kate

2009-10-28T12:57:00.003-05:00

Well the planning has begun for the union of the Cutes and Kate and let me just say, it is so much fun! My mom and sisters are my wedding planners and we have all been in close contact sharing fun ideas, thoughts, and suggestions for this special day. I just have to share some details with you!!

Where: Black Fox Farms in Cleveland, Tennessee

Black Fox Farms is a beautiful farm with an on site nursery and big beautiful barn for entertaining!! Some close family friends of ours own this sweet place and when we saw it we instantly fell in love! The cutes and I want this day to be casual, sweet, and full of fun, laughter, our closest friends and family. This setting will capture the "shabby chic" look we are going for. (I had to explain that term to Oscar, but when he learned the definition he was in total agreement:) We will have the ceremony outside facing the beautiful oak trees surrounding the pond and the reception will be held inside the big red barn! (How fun is that??)

When: April 17, 2010

We have set the 'tentative' date for April 17, 2010. I checked the farmers almanac (yes, I'm serious) and the weather is just so pretty that time of year in Tennessee!

So - as of now, those are the main details. I am going wedding dress shopping this weekend with my best friend, Ruthie! I am so excited about seeing her! I will keep you posted as each detail unfolds.

REAL girls Serve: Widow's Luncheon

2009-10-26T08:24:00.004-05:00

This past Sunday, REAL girls hosted a special luncheon honoring the widows of our church. We had about 50 widows show up for a "black and white" themed luncheon immediately following our Sunday worship service. This was a great chance to introduce ourselves and offer our services to help them in any way that they may need (housework, yard work, running errands, etc...) The girls jumped right in and helped out wherever need. Some welcomed and directed the ladies, others visited with the ladies at their tables, and everyone helped serving a delicious dinner and desserts. The widows loved every part of it and almost every lady told me how honored and special she felt that these high school girls would serve them and give them their afternoon. We had a great turnout and so much fun working together!

The Proposal

2009-10-21T12:17:00.012-05:00

Yeah....so I'm engaged:) It has been over a week and I am finally getting around to blogging about this exciting event!! So here's the scoop:

Prelude

I have known I wanted to marry Oscar since last December. That probably doesn't make sense to people or you can't understand it, but I can't explain it. I just knew. That feeling has only grown and developed more and more as we have grown closer in our relationship. So, needless to say, I was ready for this special day:)

On February 14, 2009 - Oscar gave me a beautiful promise ring. He told me that he was dating me with a goal and purpose in mind. Our relationship has only grown stronger and matured over the past few months.

It was 3 weeks ago that Oscar and I had planned to meet at his place and go do some fun fall shopping. He arrived about 30 minutes late to meet me after work. I had been waiting for him outside for that entire time and was a little annoyed that he hadn't called or anything. He explained that his tardiness was due to traffic, but little did I know he had to stop by the jewelry store to pick up something special :) He told me later that as he saw me stomp over to the truck, he smiled and thought, "Woman, if you only knew what I was doing you wouldn't be so sassy."

October 13, 2009

Last Tuesday, Oscar asked if I could come up to his apartment after work. He had been sick the previous weekend, still wasn't feeling that great, and had a pretty gloomy day at work. (What I didn't know was that he had to cancel his big plans the weekend before due to his sickness..) So, I went up to his apartment and was hanging out with him when we sorta started talking...

I was a little bit sad that night because we hadn't really had any good quality time together in a while. He said, "If you could wish for one thing what would it be?"
I replied quickly, "Babe, I just want to be married to you, I love you so much!"
Then he said,"Well, maybe Friday we can do celebrate at Mark's." (A super nice and fun restaurant downtown)

I was clueless and said, "Celebrate what?"

Then he asked to grab my hand. I sorta pulled it back thinking he was teasing me and said, "Stop, that's not funny.."

The he said, "No, I'm serious...I think I dropped it.."

He fumbled for a second and I realized this was really happening. He was proposing to me! Then he put the ring on my finger and said, "I want you to be my wife..."

I just started crying, and I don't mean a cute little dainty tearing up of the eye, I mean a full out sob. I couldn't believe this was really happening. I kept saying, "Are you serious...I'm so happy!" I think he wasn't sure how I felt at first because I could not stop crying to reply, "I want to be your wife more than anything!"

Aw..I love him so much and I am just so excited about our future together. I remember my mom and dad saying to me, "Kate, you know you have met the right person when you are both better together than you are separate." And I must say that is completely true with Oscar and me! He has taught me so much about myself

Celebration:

This past weekend we celebrated our engagement at Mark's. It is an old church turned in to a beautiful quaint restaurant. It was the nicest, prettiest, yummiest, funniest, sweetest, most romantic place I have ever eaten! We dressed up and looked like movie stars (atleast we thought so) and went out for a fun night together to celebrate such a fun future together! (I lost my camera battery charger, so we only had my phone to take pictures. However, when I tried to discreetly take his picture, my mega-bright flash turned on and we got nervous that people would realize that we were truly rednecks..so I kept it in my purse for the remainder of the evening)

For our appetizer we had what was called a 'Munchkin Pumpkin' . It was a miniature pumpkin cooked in Cider and then served with lobster and delicious seasonings. It tasted like fall in a bowl, with a side of lobster.

For the main course: Oscar ordered the Alaskan King Crab (we had to ask how you eat it before because we weren't sure..haha)

I ordered the Snapper with Brazilian Fish Ribs..(did you even know that fish have ribs? I didnt..but they do and they are yummy with a spicy sauce)

For dessert: We had a Dark chocolate lava cake served with chocolate cookie that had a congratulations message written in gold just for us! It was so sweet - but we ate it:)

The union of the Cutes and Kate will take place in Tennessee in the spring! The planning has already begun so stay tuned for details:)

Rihanna's Russian Roulette

2009-10-21T08:44:00.003-05:00

Okay - So I am going to fill you all in on the exciting engagement story:) BUT first, I heard Rihanna's new song entitled 'Russian Roulette' this morning on my way to work and had to talk about it!

The song was allegedly written during her hard year dealing with the Chris Brown drama. The lyrics are so dark and point to feelings of hopelessness and despair. The song talks about playing the game of Russian roulette and the emotions involved deciding when to 'pull the trigger.' It ends with a pause, deep sigh, the sound of a revolver turning, and then a gun shot... very dark.

Here is a section from the LA Times written about this topic:

"The lyrics are vague enough to keep people guessing but hint at a situation one probably doesn't want to be in the middle of. "He says close your eyes, sometimes it helps," Rihanna sings with unshaken directness, adding, ominously, "and then I get a scary thought." The beats close in around her, and the strings quiver as if they're being played through gritted teeth, building in the end to something almost approaching a theme to a Bond film.
But make no mistake, although the song comes to a close with a final bang, Rihanna is the heroine here. "So just pull the trigger," she tosses off in the cut's final moments, all swagger and confidence. The narrative of the song -- and just who, exactly, is the shooter -- matters less than Rihanna's command performance. A midtempo song without overbearing production, the single belongs all to Rihanna, and she makes the best of it -- a bit icy, a tad fearless, with the vocal strength to keep the orchestral flourishes at bay."

It's just a song, I mean who cares right? Hm...not for me. When hurting people listen to this, they relate, they have a false sense of hope and escape. It honestly made me sad...so many people don't know True Hope and True Love that comes only from our Father God. They are hopeless and afraid. Anyways, I just wanted to share my thoughts.... the song didn't offend me, just made me sad.

FR09 Followup!

2009-10-01T11:00:00.007-05:00

On Tuesday I told you about this little thing called Fall Riot that we were getting all geared up for. This event is very unique to our ministry because it is completely on the shoulders of our student ministry to get into their friend groups and bring their unchurched friends! Well guess what - they did it. Last night was absolutely amazing!

This was one of the funnest things I have ever been a part of during my time in ministry. Our entire youth team had a significant role in putting together such a fun and exciting night. Michael Head delivered such a great message and challenge straight from Gods Word. We saw God draw 249 students to Himself last night. I was completely blown away that God can use a bunch a crazy people to do something so amazing!

This week we are working hard to followup with each student that made a decision. We want to see these students grow and develop in their faith. Please be praying as we continue to reach out to the students of Katy, Texas and watch God's power invade the schools and lives of every student!

Here are a few more pics:

Fall Riot '09

2009-09-29T15:15:00.003-05:00

Fall Riot is tomorrow night, September 30, at 6:30pm. This is going to be a crazy fun night. We already have 2 varsity cheer teams and 1 drill team from 3 different high school in the Katy area. Several varsity and JHigh quarterbacks are coming to compete in the quarterback competition along with 2 DJ's, a professional dance crew, amazing giveaways and prizes, free pizza, and a few little weird elements in between. This is going to be such a fun night for the JHigh and High School students of Katy, Texas!

This event is exciting to me because the success is completely placed on the burden of our students for their friends! We are encouraging our students to get into their friend groups, teams, clubs, and schools and invite the people they see everyday! We want them to own this event and lift up their friends in prayer to God.

Our team of staff and volunteers are all praying for God to do amazing works in the hearts of these students and to see lives completely changed. If you get a chance, lift up the Second Baptist Youth Ministry in prayer as we seek to share the love of Christ with thousands of students across the Houston area.

Check out a short clip from some of the REAL girls of the 210 Student Ministry promoting Fall Riot in their 80's Outfits:)

Lessons on Tie Dye at REAL girls

2009-09-21T09:20:00.006-05:00

No I did not try to incorporate 'Tie-Dying' into
my lesson..:) However, last Sunday night we did Tie Dye at REAL girls...and it was a hit! However I learned several lessons from this fun little project:
1. You definitely need lots of gloves - just look at my pink and blue stained fingers for proof
2. It takes time - I plan things like a 5th grade boy and didn't read all the directions until that night. So if you are panning to tie-dye you won't really see the finished product until the dye in the shirt has had time to set in and dry (6-8 hours approximately)...so now you know
3. Tie-Dye was a huge hit for my high school girls! We had a great turnout and everyone enjoyed experimenting with the dye!
4. It's messy so have lots of trashcans, trash bags readily available. Don't wear something cute while attempting to tie-dye

Overall, the entire night was a lot of fun. All the girls were mingling together to learn from eachother and see different ideas. Luckily, my high school girls are smarter than me and brought some necessary supplies with them (gloves, plastic wrap, etc...) I really enjoyed seeing everyone working together and trying to figure out how to tie-dye and sharing different ideas. They turned out really cute and I was so impressed with their artsy abilities!

Our topic for the night was "Lies we believe about God." We had a great talk and I am excited to see what this Sunday night holds.

Tomorrow night at REAL girls we are talking about "Drama, we don't want no drama." We will be discussing lies we believe about friendships/relationships and how to avoid unnecessary drama and conflict. One of our senior girls from Seven Lakes High School will be sharing her story with the group as well! I'll keep you posted on how the night goes:)

American Teenager: Volunteer Testimony

2009-09-18T12:15:00.004-05:00

Last Sunday we began a new series in the 210 High School Ministry called 'American Teenager.' We have an amazing volunteer who co-leads one of our Collision Groups. She shared her powerful testimony with our students last Sunday morning on the topic of Teen Pregnancy and how God used this time in her life to bring glory to Him. God is using her and her story to make a difference in the lives of many teenager girls of Katy, Texas!

REAL girls Fall Semester

2009-09-10T10:00:00.008-05:00

REAL girls starts back up this Sunday night. This fall we will be doing a 10 week studying loosely following the book Lies Young Women Believe and the Truth That Sets Them Free by Nancy Demoss and Dannah Gresh.

We are doing some fun activities this year. One service project we will be hosting is a Widows Luncheon. We will be preparing, hosting, and decorating a special luncheon just for the widows of the West Campus of Second Baptist Church. This will be a great chance for the girls to get creative, plan an event, and serve the adult ladies of our church body.

Fall 2009 REAL girls Schedule:

September 13: REAL girls Intro Party

Topic: The Deceiver and the Deceived
September 20: B.Y.O.T. (Bring your own T-shirt craft night! )

Topic: Pursuing the Truth
September 27: 80’s Night (Come dressed in your best 80’s outfit)

Topic: Lies about God & Lies about Satan
October 4: Spa Night (Come in your jams for a fun Spa Craft!)

Topic:Lies about Myself
October 11: Ice cream Sundaes!

Topic: Lies about Guys & Relationships
October 18: Coffee & Cocoa Night

Topic: Lies about my Faith
October 25: Widows Luncheon
This is a great chance for us
to serve the widow’s of the church!
We are planning and serving a
Luncheon just for them!
November 1: Costume Contest (Wear your best costume for a chance to win the prize!)

Topic: Lies about our Sin and our Future
November 8: Final REAL girls meeting

Topic: Overcoming Lies

November 15: REAL girls Party

Colors of 2009 Fall Season!

2009-09-08T14:40:00.006-05:00

This weekend I traveled to Tennessee to spend some much needed quality time with my family. The mountains were beautiful and I had my first taste of the fall season with beautiful weather. I then got off the plane in Houston and was welcomed by 90 degree weather with fantastic humidity. Oh well, welcome back to reality I guess. However, it definitely got me ready for the Fall Season this year:) I am now in the Fall Spirit - ready for hayrides, corn mazes, pumpkin spice lattes, the brisk air, and ready to stock up on some fun Fall accessories. In case you are wondering (yes mom, I know you aren't:) here are the fabulous colors of fall this season from womensfashion.suite101.com:

American Beauty — designed to suit all skintones, this warm but robust hue can be blended with almost any shade.
Rapture Rose — with nurturing and feminine tones, this color plays upon the vibrancy of last season’s fuschia but is toned down a little with soft pink. This key shade transcends clothing into cosmetics and accessories.
Burnt Sienna — more a pinkish, earthy orange, reminiscent of Mediterranean terracotta roof tiles. Warm and comforting.
Majolica Blue — adding an exotic feel to the color group this cross between teal blue and navy complements oranges and purple hues perfectly.
Purple Heart — sitting somewhere between true purple and lilac, this refined tone is soft and sensual.
Warm Olive — a rich yellowy green, reminiscent of an olive in a martini, which, according to Pantone's Fall 2009 report “makes all other colors come alive.”
Honey Yellow — a warm and welcoming yellow with a hint of honeyed beige. A perfect partner to Burnt Sienna for a wintry feel.
Crème Brûlée — needs no explanation for those who love its namesake, the delicious French desert. Providing one of fall’s classic neutrals, this paired down mix of gray and ivory beige looks good enough to eat!
Nomad — another timeless neutral which falls between light gray and beige serves as an anchor for more robust colors
Iron — represents the “new black” of the season. Neither a true gray nor brown it falls more in the category of a cross between slate and gunmetal. This serves as a grounding color for all other tones.

Fall 2009

BIG Church

2009-08-31T10:01:00.007-05:00

The 210 High School Ministry is made up of a very unique group of students. A large majority of our students are not from a strong Christian background and do not regularly (if ever) attend a Worship service. We have observed that most of our students simply show up on Sunday mornings at 11 for the high school service and never attend a Sunday morning worship service. Knowing the statistics of 'Church dropouts' when students graduate from high school, our team has been truly burdened for our students to understand what church is all about and why it exists.

Over the past 3 weeks, Brett Davis has been leading a series called "Here's the Church" focusing on the importance and purpose of the church. As a followup to this series and an attempt to show our students the significance of attending a worship service, our team decided to do a special service this coming Sunday during our 9:30 Bible study hour called "I'm going to BIG Church." We are all meeting together attending the contemporary worship service of Second Baptist Church. I think this will be a great opportunity to expose our students what a Sunday morning "BIG" church service actually looks like and also to challenge them to begin coming to BIG church regularly on Sunday mornings before heading over to the 210 high school service.

A Secular View on Forgiveness

2009-08-24T15:25:00.004-05:00

The word 'forgiveness' is just a common part of my Christian vocabulary. Because of my amazing parents and their strong faith in God, I grew up understanding the Truth about what it means to forgive and to be forgiven. I guess I never realized what a foreign concept the act of true 'forgiveness' actually is to a world who does not have a relationship with God through Christ and does not hold to the Truth of God's Word. Last Saturday morning I was watching Good Morning America when a segment caught my attention. To hear the word 'forgiveness' or other "churchy words" used on prime time TV is very rare so I immediately tuned in. It was very interesting to hear the philosophies and ideas behind the act of forgiveness from a secular standpoint. I am so thankful to know the Truth about forgiveness and understand that I am called to mimic Him by loving others and forgiving even without an apology.

"But I tell you: Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous." Matthew 5:44-45

"Oh, what joy for those whose disobedience is forgiven, whose sins are put out of sight. Yes, what joy for those whose sin is no longer counted against them by the Lord" Romans 4:7-8

“And forgive us our sins, just as we have forgiven those who have sinned against us . . . If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins” Matthew 6:12, 14-15

"Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for it to kill your enemy." Nelson Mandela

Student Led Bible Studies

2009-08-20T12:54:00.003-05:00

One thing that has been a huge encouragement to me this summer has been attending several student led Bible studies. I have had 3 different groups of female students approach me about coming to a Bible study started and led by them! It is so encouraging to watch these girls get into God's Word totally on their own and reach out to their group of friends. Honestly, that's what it's all about! I cannot take credit for starting or leading any of these, they were completely and totally student led! It is a powerful thing to see God working in the heart of a teenager and watching God's love spill out onto an entire friend group! It's amazing to sit around the circle of 10 or so girls as their share struggles and grow closer to Christ together as friends. I am blown away by what God is doing in the 210 High School Ministry in spite of me. That's not a humble comment, it is the truth! God's love is so much bigger than me.

Facebook Status

2009-08-13T13:51:00.004-05:00

So last night for Collide, our Wednesday night high school service, we decided to make a list of the 'Top 10 Funniest Facebook Status Updates' from our students. We didn't include their names of course to keep from totally humiliating them, but it was definetly fun to scroll through and read the funny updates. We found some pretty weird and funny ones but here is our list:

1. ....is 165 lbs. of pure awesomeness. ;)

2. ....Ethan Peck, try to be hotter. No, you can’t do it. Its impossible

3. .....Come visit the Pygmy Hippopotamus exhibit I just built using My Zoo!

4. ..... I have a beard and it itches

5. ....If I had a gun, there would NOT be an owl outside my window

6. .....Nothing like a giant zit to keep you humble

7. .....Can I take a picture of you, so I can show Santa just what I want for Christmas (:

8. ....Going swimming in my bath tub; legit. [hit me upp]

9. ....lollipop lollipop oh lolli lolli lollipop!!! budum dum dum

10. ....Is Google trying to tell me there is a meteor shower tonight?!?! I don’t see no meteor shower

It was funny to see how much information you can gather about students simply by reading their facebook status. After looking at hundreds of updates we found some funny similiarities:

- Song lyrics seem to be the best way to tell someone how you feel. Particularly the oppposite sex

- No matter what you say, always add a few extra letters for emphasis..(i.e. "still wit my girlssssss. lataaaaaaaaaa [texxxttttttt]")

-Status updates seem to be a great way to get even, make an ex feel sad about breaking up with you, or have a cyber girl fight

- By using your status update you can make sure everyone knows where you are at every single minute of the day. (i.e. "Woke up at 8, ate some cheerriosssss, watched Suite Life-I love suite life- went to mall with Kelsssssss, laying out by pool...texxttttttt:))))")

Lessons I'm Learning

2009-08-06T09:23:00.010-05:00

I remember when I graduated from College and thought.."Finally, no more learning for me!" HA - Little did I know that my education had really just begun. Winston Churchill said "I am always ready to learn although I do not always like being taught." I guess that's how I have felt the past few months.I really have a heart to learn and grow, but it has definitely been hard and confusing. God has been teaching me some big lessons from my mistakes, observing the actions of others, making hard decisions, and pretty much just living life. The following are lessons that I have learned over the past few months as well as lessons that I am in the process of learning:

1. Burn out in ministry is real
2. Spending quality time in God's Word is VALUABLE and the only way to get escape burnout. (I know I have heard that a billion times, but I'm learning that to be even more true every day)
3. It's easy to lose your focus (I constantly have to check my heart and motives asking myself, "Why am I doing this? Why am I putting effort into this project?"..to win approval of men? to compete? to climb some ladder? I need God's Word and His strength to keep my focus and renew the passion in my heart.)
4. Patience (i'll always be working on this lesson)
5. God is way bigger than I think He is
6. Lead by example, no matter where you "rank" in your job, family, or friend group (God isn't concerned with what everyone else is doing. He will only hold me accountable for my actions, my decisions, and the motivations of my heart. Be a leader simply by doing what is right and true.)
7. You can play the part and even succeed but eventually, your true colors will be revealed

Mark 7:15-23

"There is nothing outside a person that by going into him can defile him, but the things that come out of a person are what defile him."...And he said, "What comes out of a person is what defiles him. For from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft,murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality,envy, slander, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person."

Just a few lessons I am learning...

Update on Kate

2009-07-28T09:13:00.013-05:00

Well I feel like I have been a lousy blogger this summer. Really, I associate this with the following reasons: youth ministry is extra busy in the summer and I have had major blogger block. However, several updates are in order on the life of Kate over the past weekend....

Update #1: Marme had a Birthday

First of all, and most importantly, my Sweet Mom had a birthday. I would tell the Cyber world her age but she still has disciplinary rights in my life and honestly, I'm a little scared of her...:) I know this is a cliche' thing to say, but it is so very true - I would not be the person I am today without the loving and amazing example of my mom. The older I get and the more decisions and situations I face, the more I realize what a rare and precious mother I have.

She hates reality TV, but has a love for American Idol.
She has managed to keep her cute figure while eating an entire chocolate pie during the night.
She is the true definition of the word 'Lady', yet can beat any regular joe in a 'Skeet-Shooting' contest.
She has mastered the art of ballet without ever taking one ballet lesson...she is naturally graceful:)
With 15 minutes and 10$ she can create a beautiful masterpiece.
I love my mom and I am so thankful for her!

Update #2: Jillian picked Ed....

Now my mom is going to roll her eyes that I even watch this 'superficial, producer controlled, relaity garbage.." but it's true...I do watch it. And while I think that Ed wears girl shorts and Forever 21 tank tops, I think they make a cute couple.

Update #3: Mr. O and I went to the Woodlands Pavillion to see The Fray in concert this weekend.

They were amazing! If you've never been to the Woodlands Pavillion you definitely need to check it out. It is a great atmosphere and we lucked out to have beautiful-not-so-hot weather. Great show. Great company :) !

Okay - that's all for now:)

LEAD Retreat

2009-07-17T07:47:00.007-05:00

Our LEAD team, the 210 High School Ministry Student Leadership team, took a retreat this past week to Galveston Island. It was absolutely one of the best things I believe our ministry has experienced this year. We took about 20 of our students and were able to have fun on the beach, bond together as a team, play some crazy fun games, and be challenged in the area of leadership and growing in Christ. Our 210 High School Staff had a great chance to connect with these students outside of the typical large group of Sundays and Wednesdays. Check out the pics:

9th Grade Movie Night

2009-07-16T10:37:00.009-05:00

Last Sunday night we had a great opportunity to meet the upcoming 9th graders of the 210 High School Ministry. We had a fun movie night with the typical youth ministry diet of Popcorn and Pizza. It was a great way to meet the new students and let them feel a part of our ministry. Here's a few pics:

Safe Sex Fails

2009-07-09T07:00:00.001-05:00

Apparently, the Britian's Young People's Development Program invested 6 million UKP to promote safe sex. The participants of this program were given contraception and sex advice. However, the results are in and their plan has backfired with a pregnancy rate that has doubled since last year.

"(R)esearch funded by the Department of Health shows that young women who attended the program, at a cost of £2,500 each, were ’significantly’ more likely to become pregnant than those on other youth programs who were not given contraception and sex advice. A total of 16 percent of those on the Young People’s Development Program conceived compared with just 6 percent in other programs. Experts said the scheme failed because it introduced girls ‘at risk’ of becoming pregnant to promiscuous girls they might not otherwise have met."

Check it out here: Safe Sex Fails

Collide & Aftermath

2009-06-25T10:28:00.006-05:00

Last night was a great night at Collide (our Wednesday night High School service). Michael Middleton performed for us which was a huge hit for our high school girls:). During the summer, we have a fun activity (Aftermath) following each Collide service. This week we had a scavenger hunt at Katy Mills mall. The students had to find our 210 High School Leaders wandering throughout the mall. Some of the leaders were in disguise and others were just shopping around. When they saw the leader they had to ask, "(Insert leaders name), do you know the muffin man?" It was so fun to watch the students compete to find the most leaders in the shortest amount of time.

Beach Retreat Recap Video

2009-06-22T16:46:00.003-05:00

This video will give you a glimpse into the amazing 2 weeks of beach retreat. Check it out:

BEACH REPEAT

2009-06-14T10:05:00.003-05:00

Well we arrived home LATE friday night from High School Beach Retreat and I am about to load the buses for JHigh Beach Retreat! I know this is going to be another AMAZING week. Last week we had a total of 1727 students, staff, and leaders with us in Gulf Shores, Alabama for High School Beach Retreat. God did some beautiful things and I know He will continue to do so this week! Stay tuned and follow along at the Beach Retreat Blog

Follow Us!

2009-06-05T19:31:00.002-05:00

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Beach Retreat Pre-Party!

2009-06-03T10:35:00.005-05:00

High School Beach Retreat is 5 days away! Tonight we are having our Beach Retreat Pre-party and we are expecting a huge turnout! Our pastor, Dr. Ed Young is going to make a special appearance along with the Beach Retreat Band lead by Michael Middleton. God is going to do some amazing things at Beach Retreat this year. There is an excitement in the air of every high school and within our student ministry.

A Christian Personality

2009-05-26T14:58:00.005-05:00

Dr. Ed Young, the pastor of Second Baptist Church delivered such a challenging message this past weekend. His sermon series is in 1 Peter about 'Growing a Christian Personality.' I was so challenged by this and thought I would share some of my notes with you!

1 Peter 1:13-16
" Therefore, prepare your minds for action; be self-controlled; set your hope fully on the grace to be given you when Jesus Christ is revealed. As obedient children, do not conform to the evil desires you had when you lived in ignorance. But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: 'Be holy, because I am holy'."

If we want to develop a Christian personality and learn to make great choices we must live according to the truths in this verse:
1. Prepare your Mind (THINK!)
Put your mind in gear. Don't be an anti-intellectual Christian, but know what and why you believe!
2. Take your heart (your feelings) and let Christ have them.
Give Christ your passions and allow Him to use them in an amazing way!
3. Surrender your will to Christ
How you make decisions should be based on what you KNOW and then the passions that Christ has put in your heart and is developing in you.

It is so important that we keep these in order (1,2,3) when we are making decisions. If we skip step 2 we might know something and act on it but have no passion, no emotion and we end up just going through the motions. If we skip step 1 we make irrational and emotional decisions that are not founded on solid truth.

The result of following the truths in God's Word equal holiness. Verses 15 & 16 say, "But just as he who called you is holy, so be holy in all you do; for it is written: 'Be holy, because I am holy'." We oftentimes associate the word 'Holy' to mean outside of this world and all together separate. However, in this context 'holiness' means to be exclusively for God's use. We surrender our minds, our heart, and our will to God to be used exclusively for HIM!

You can check out his message here:

Freshman Cookout

2009-05-23T08:00:00.001-05:00

This Sunday afternoon we are meeting our new upcoming 9th grade students! The 210 High School Ministry is hosting a pool party and cookout for all the graduating 8th graders. Graduation time is filled with mixed emotions for me - we send a batch of seniors out into the grown up world and get a shipment of 9th graders who are new to the high school world. This is a great chance for the high school youth staff to welcome them in and make the transition a little less crazy! Our LEAD team (the HS leadership team) will also be there to help make the students feel welcome!

School Lunches

2009-05-20T11:58:00.004-05:00

Every week, the 210 Student Ministry tries to attend the lunches of different high schools and junior highs within the Katy ISD. Walking into the busy cafeteria is intimidating when you are in high school...but it is even MORE intimidating when you are 'old' (as I was labeled in a 9th grade lunch last week).

Brett, the high school guys associate on the 210 team, and I attended a certain high school this afternoon. It never ceases to amaze me how many students see you and actually get excited to see us there. I normally catch myself looking around trying to see what all the fuss is about. STUDENTS LOVE SEEING THEIR YOUTH MINISTRY ON THEIR CAMPUS!

I thought I would list some reasons why school lunch is so important in student ministry (or at least where my church is located):

1. The students from your ministry LOVE it

2. You are able to meet so many of your students' un-churched friends

3. It reminds you of how much pressure there is in high school (By the time I'm leaving lunch I am feeling all self-conscious and insecure like I am right back in 9th grade-by the way...do I look fat?:)

4. You form relationships with the administration from the school (security, teachers, coaches, secretaries, principles, etc...)

5. The two lives of a student (school/social & church) collide making it easier to help a student reach out to their peers

When we are on a school campus, we make it a priority to obey all rules and guidelines given by the school district and specific campus. We do not waltz in there passing out flyers and holding outreach services. It is in our obedience to those guidelines that we are able to form relationships and respect with each school while also showing the love of Christ to students without saying a word! School lunches- while not convenient, awkward at times, and sometimes time consuming - are extremely effective in reaching students where they are!

A Living Vision

2009-05-18T13:42:00.017-05:00

Lately I have been challenged about the 'vision statement' of my life. I feel like this topic has been something that has been on my mind and heart over the past few weeks. Where am I going? What is my mission, my driving force behind everything I do?? I never dreamed I would be doing what I am doing, where I am doing it, and also with the love and support of my family, friends, and handsome boyfriend. It seems like I have come to a place in my life where I need to develop a mission statement, a living vision for my life. I don't want to be just another Christian who lives out their life just going day to day. In Proverbs 29:18 it says "Where there is no vision, the people perish..." Webster defines a living vision as "the ability to perceive something not actually visible, as through mental acuteness or keen foresight." This is way more focused and passionate than saying 'Oh I hope this or that happens..' or 'I hope this works out..blah blah.' A living passion is being able to actually see what God has planned and what God will do through your life long before others see it!

In a worship service I attended this Saturday the speaker told the story about Walt Disney. He passed away before the completion of Disney World. When the amazing theme park was finally completed someone made the statement "I wish that Walt could have seen this..." Another quickly replied "HE DID!! That's why it's here!!!" Walt Disney had a vision, he saw what was not actually visible! I have that desire...to see what God is going to do in and through my life.

Why is a living vision so important? Developing a personal and living vision does several things for us:

- A living vision gives us motivation (When times get tough, and we are question why we are doing what we are doing, our living vision gives us energy and recharges us for our mission!)

- A living vision gives us a path to follow (God's Word is the lamp for our feet and a light to our path. Our living vision flows out of the promises found in God's Word)

- A living vision gives us 'passion' because it matters to us (It gives us a reason to fight and creates a fire in our hearts)

The truth is, without being aware and developing a living vision for our lives based on the leading of the Holy Spirit and the truths of God's Word, we will become burnt out, drained, and discouraged.

God's plan and the Living vision for my life is multifaceted. It is not just simply 'His plans for me in the ministry.' Yeah, that's a huge part of my life but it not in anyway the most important. I am a daughter, a sister, a girlfriend (hopefully one day a wife..wink:), one day a mother, and my jobs will only continue to grow. My living vision is the key to success and joy in my life...Do I see God doing crazy, amazing, unbelievable things in and through my life??

That has been something on my heart these days:)

5 Ways to Destroy a Discussion

2009-05-14T16:25:00.007-05:00

I have been out of college for 2 years now and in those 2 years I have learned a LOT about leadership. In my job I "lead" many people and also have many "leaders". I have come to the conclusion that to be a successful and respected leader you must daily concentrate on your communication skills. In my short time as a 'full-time' adult I have witnessed (personally and sometimes from a distance) many times of conflict and failed relationships within the workplace (yes, even a church!) Here are 5 ways to absolutely destroy any chances of successful communication. I thought this did a great job of showing how we can completely ruin a conversation or relationship without even being aware of it.

1. CANCEL THE APPOINTMENT AT THE LAST MINUTE

Ever done this or had this done to you? Yeah, it's a great starter to let people know you do not value their time. This is a great way to destroy an important discussion or relationship.

2. TALK MORE THAN YOU LISTEN

This is one thing that I have personally been challenged by in my leadership and as I mature. When someone talks during the entire conversation they are in their own world and completely oblivious to the feelings, needs, and non-verbals of the person they are meeting with. This can end a good discussion very quickly (well, whenever you are finished talking). When we take the time to listen to the other person we are communicating that we care about them, what THEY have to say, how THEY feel, and what THEY need. We are also more sensitive to how to handle the situation and solve the problem.

3. AVOID TALKING ABOUT ANY FEELINGS

But it's all business..there is no room for feelings!?!? right?? WRONG. We are human beings, with feelings, opinions, attitudes, etc. If we try to operate as anything different we are sure to have some big problems and serious conflicts. People get burnt out, drained, discouraged, mad, angry, etc... when we ignore discussing feelings and personal needs. On the same topic - when people DO open up about feelings, avoid being instantly defensive. Listen to what they have to say and determine how you can best work through the issue.

4. ANSWER EVERY CALL THAT COMES IN DURING YOUR MEETING

I absolutely HATE when people are constantly looking through their phone during a conversation. Personally, I have a simple flip phone with no bells or whistles so I do not have this problem, but have you ever had a discussion with someone only to hear the constant sound of ringing, beeps, and vibrations alerting them of every message, call, and update?? These interruptions are distracting and leave the other person feeling annoyed or unimportant. You can return calls (that's what voicemail is for) and reply to messages at a later time. If you want to be a great leader - TURN OFF your phone during important discussions.

5. DON'T WORRY IF YOU RUN OUT OF TIME

When you ignore the clock and getting to the root of the problem/the point of the meeting, you have just waisted every one's time! Make sure you keep your meeting intentional about what you want to accomplish in the meeting. Don't get caught on rabbit trails missing the most important point of your meeting.

I thought these were 5 good things to avoid and be aware of in our own conversations and relationships! For successful communication and leadership it is important that we make everyone feel respected, valued, important, significant, and ultimately loved.

For more on the article check it out here: 5 Ways to Destroy an Important Discussion

Fat Talk

2009-05-14T14:39:00.002-05:00

The TODAY show did a segment on the problem of 'Fat Talk' and female relationships. While I was looking for this clip I came across this advertisement from the 50's about how women can gain weight...it's pretty funny to imagine that same advertisement appearing anywhere in today's society. .

Check it out the 'Stop the Fat Talk' segment here:

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Help me Remember!

2009-05-12T08:26:00.000-05:00

Lately I have realized how much I have forgotten. It is so easy as we go through our busy lives to forget those 'God moments': Those times when we felt God's protection, we heard His voice, we saw a glimpse of 'the big picture', we felt God's love...have you ever had a moment like that? Those times in my life were HUGE moments for me and my spiritual journey. But lately, I have forgotten.

In John 14:26 it says, “The Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send you in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you.”

I need a little reminding in my life. The Holy Spirit is our blessed 'Reminder'. Personally, when I have these times of 'forgetfulness' my vision gets blurry and I lose focus. I need more of the Holy Spirit! It is those memories - God leading me to Texas, God speaking to my heart at conference that He was about to do some BIG things through my life, God holding my family up in a dark time, and so many others - Those are the memories that remind me of God's loving kindness, His provision, and His sovereignty in my life!

My Mom: Beth McCay

2009-05-11T08:43:00.004-05:00

Meet Beth McCay, my mother:) If I amount to anything at all in this world it is because of the prayers and love of my parents.

It seems that the older and older I get and the more people I meet, the more I realize what an amazing woman my mom is and how truly BLESSED I am to have her. You cannot be in her presence without seeing the love of Christ through her actions. I know this post is a day late, but my mom is pretty practical so she will understand :)

My mom is unique. There is no mom like her. Here are a few things that make my mom amazing and unique:

1. She makes the best grits in the world - actually everything she cooks is the best in the world

2. She can do the 'Ham-bone' dance

3. She can shoot 'skeet' (clay pigeons) like Annie Oakley

4. She is the only mom who can scale a mountain like she is a teenage boy! :)

5. She still has dreams of being a ballerina and being 'graceful'

6. She is now a 'biker chick' and rides with my dad

7. She never meets a stranger

8. She can make a beautiful flower arrangment out of sticks and leaves

9. She has a unique way of pronouncing words: "May-xico" and "Ar-a-gon" (Mexico/Oregon)

10. She is as sweet as sugar but firey as a firecracker if you cross her:)

I love you mom! You are my hero

The Graduate

2009-04-30T08:49:00.004-05:00

This weekend Mr. O and I are headed back to my Alma mater in Ohio to see my sister, Carrianna, graduate from college. I can't believe the little chick is old enough to graduate from college and about to begin working as a real-life-full-time nurse! She is graduating with honors (unlike the footsteps of her older sister...oops:) and is going to make an incredible nurse!

I also get to enjoy a nice visit with my entire family in Tennessee, who I haven't seen since Christmas! I'm sure Ill have LOTS of pictures...so stay tuned!

Happy Birthday Ruthie!

2009-04-28T15:52:00.007-05:00

Today is my best friend and college roommate, Ruthie Corley's, birthday. She is the big 24. Ruthie and I became friends our freshman year at Cedarville University. I use my relationship with Ruthie in so many of my illustrations and stories to both high school and middle school girls on 'friendship,' because through Ruthie, I learned what it means to be a true friend. Our friendship is so rare and I am so thankful for it. We did some really embarrassing things, dressed up in about a million different outfits, took some fun road trips, ate lots of cookie dough, and made ourselves laugh (Even when noone else thought it was funny)

She now works as a girls youth leader in Greenville, South Carolina. Neither one of us thought this is where we would be 2 years after graduation. We actually pondered working on a cruise line, as stewardesses, or anything where we could be together after graduation. But God had different plans and I am so thankful for the strong friendship that (even though we are still so far away from eachother) continues to encourage me, make me laugh so hard I cry, challenge me, and point me to Jesus!

She has been there with me and my family through some of our darkest and scariest times...sometimes bringing comic relief, but mainly bringing a sweet, sincere, and loving heart. I love Ruthie Corley. I have no doubt that God sent her to be my friend and help me see Him in a whole new way. Her view of life was fun, sincere, pure, true, joyful, caring, and full of laughter and love.

Gosh I luv ya Ruth. I hope you have a wonderful birthday:)

REAL girls talk about REAL love

2009-04-27T08:55:00.010-05:00

This past Sunday was our last REAL girls meeting of the spring semester and it was so much fun! We talked about REAL love: Dating & Sexuality. This lesson went GREAT as a followup to the morning Bible study sermon from Brian Mills on the topic of 'Selfish Sex.'

The issues of dating and sexuality are pretty big topics and too be able to fully discuss everything about them in an hour is pretty much impossible... One thing that makes these topics even more difficult is that the Bible leaves a lot of blanks in terms of dating and sexuality.

The Bible does make two principles extremely clear on these topics:
- People who are dating must respect one another in every possible way
- Sexual intercourse before marriage is a sin

We started out by having a 'Dating Spree'. This was a fun table game where the girls were given $47.00 to buy their date. They had to purchase different qualities that they wanted in a guy but could use no more/no less than $47. Qualities and character traits ranged in price from $10.00 to $1.00. They had to choose what was the most important for their $47.00 budget. This was a fun game that got everyone talking, laughing, and thinking about what was the most important qualities of a guy.

We then discussed how many times we will compromise and sacrifice things when we enter into a dating relationship. Many times we sacrifice important traits for superficial traits.

I Corinthians 6:12-15 "Just because something is technically legal doesn't mean that it's spiritually appropriate. If I went around doing whatever I thought I could get by with, I'd be a slave to my whims. You know the old saying, "First you eat to live, and then you live to eat"? Well, it may be true that the body is only a temporary thing, but that's no excuse for stuffing your body with food, or indulging it with sex. Since the Master honors you with a body, honor him with your body! God honored the Master's body by raising it from the grave. He'll treat yours with the same resurrection power. Until that time, remember that your bodies are created with the same dignity as the Master's body."

I Thessalonians 4:1-3 "One final word, friends. We ask you—urge is more like it—that you keep on doing what we told you to do to please God, not in a dogged religious plod, but in a living, spirited dance. You know the guidelines we laid out for you from the Master Jesus. God wants you to live a pure life. Keep yourselves from sexual promiscuity. "

There is sooooo much pressure to be sexy, in a relationship, and sexually active in high school. Guys are pressured to have as much sex with the hottest girls they can find to demonstrate their manhood. Girls are pressured to demonstrate their sexiness-by dressing, walking, acting in a way that catches the eyes and stirs hormones of whichever guys might be watching.

God created sex. All that God created is good. Sex is a good thing! However, Satan has used lies, deception, and perverted the beautiful creation of sex. I asked the girls the question, "How do you think the true purpose of sex has been perverted and changes in today's culture, society, and the media?" Here were some of their responses:

1. Pornography
- "It gives guys false ideas of sex and women"
- "It gives girls false ideas of what we are supposed to look like and act like"

2. Emotionless Sex is promoted
- 'My Poker Face' by Lady Gaga
- If it feels good, do it

3. No commitment
- Affairs are normal and expected
- Affairs are justified through emotions and portrayed as humorous on TV, movies, etc
4. Women need to use their 'power'
- Use your body to get guys attention
- Play guys like they've been playing us
- Masturbation: Mom's need to educate and purchase products for their daughters to help prevent sexual activity and let's women no longer depend on men (as discussed on Oprah a few weeks ago...crazy?? yeah I know)

We ended by discussing that sexual purity doesn’t come from simply ‘not having sex’. I was aware that not every girl in that room was having sex, has had sex, or even in a relationship. However, simply 'not having sex' does not make us pure and holy before God.

Matthew 5 says “But don’t think you have preserved your virtue simply by staying out of bed. Your heart can be corrupted by lust even quicker than your body. Those leering looks you think nobody notices – they also corrupt”

Ephesians 5:3 says, “ But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people”

We closed with this verse. It is the Message summary of 'Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.' I thought that this summary helped explain how God calls us to live holy lives on the INSIDE where only He can see, not just on the outside for others to see.

Matthew 5 "You're blessed when you get your inside world—your mind and heart—put right. Then you can see God in the outside world.

A Musical in Real Life

2009-04-24T07:00:00.000-05:00

Check out this video where a real like musical performance happens at a train station in Belgium...'Unsuspecting Train Riders get a Treat'

Generation Me

2009-04-23T07:00:00.005-05:00

Check out this article from Newsweek talking about the narcissistic epidemic in America. Very thought provoking.

Here's a small section of the article:

"Armed with a steady influx of trophies just for showing up, "I Am Special" coloring books and princess parties, it is hard for kids to understand why an abundance of ego might be bad for them...But no matter how you were raised, the handiest cure for narcissism used to be life. Whether through fate, circumstances or moral imperative, our culture kept hubris in check. Now, we encourage it. Pastors preach of a Jesus that wants us to be rich. The famously egocentric wide receiver Terrell Owens declares at a press conference that being labeled selfish is fine with him. Donald Trump names everything he owns after himself and calls his detractors "losers." We live in a world where everyone can be a star—if only on YouTube. The general sense among students on that New Haven campus is that with the world being such a competitive, cutthroat place, they have to be narcissists. Well, you may need a supersize ego to win "America's Next Top Model" or to justify your multimillion dollar bonus. But last I checked, most of our lives don't require all that attitude. Treating the whole world as if it works for you doesn't suggest you're special, it means you're an ass. As an antidote to a skyrocketing self-worth, Twenge recommends humility, evaluating yourself more accurately, mindfulness and putting others first. Such values may seem quaint, maybe even self-defeating, to those of us who think we're special, but trust me: it gets easier with practice.."

Check it out here:

Generation Me

Elle goes Au Natural

2009-04-22T05:30:00.002-05:00

The French version of ELLE magazine does something 'crazy' in the world of advertizing. It ran a complete issue without makeup AND photoshop. Every model was completely natural - Very neat. Check out the photos here:
NO MAKEUP. NO PHOTOSHOP

REAL girls meet REAL guys

2009-04-20T16:26:00.009-05:00

Last Sunday night at REAL girls we discussed the topic of REAL guys: What is up with them anyway!?! I introduced our topic by discussing how God created guys and girls with SO MANY DIFFERENCES! These differences were created to compliment each other, but many times they do just the opposite. We discussed how the media portray men as lazy, ignorant, arrogant, insignificant and after only one thing. We pointed out that men are created in God's image and are so valuable! Their strengths are so significant and compliment our weaknesses. If we want to have healthy relationships with guys (boyfriends, spouses, dads, brothers, co-workers, etc...), we must take time to understand our differences and understand who guys are and why they do what they do. I decided that rather than having me stand up in front of them and talk ABOUT guys, we would bring in some REAL guys to talk to us!

It was such a fun night. For the panel representing the minds of men I had:

Brett Davis: my co-worker,the high school guys associate who is 24 yrs old and single

Mr. O: my cuteness, Project-Engineer, who is 24 years old and TAKEN

Chris Hopf: my co-worker, the junior high guys associate who is 26 years old and a newly wed

I brought these guys up and introduced them to the girls. I started out the conversation by asking a few questions that girls had sent me through facebook messages. The girls quickly began asking some of their own questions for the guys, most of which dealt with boy/girl dating relationships, breakup, etc...

Some of the questions were as follows:

- What do guys think about girls who pretend to be ditsy?

- Why do guys change when they are around their friends?

- What is guys' biggest pet peeve about girls?

- What are guys attracted to in women?

- What is something guys wish girls knew about them?

- Why do guys so seldom come forward if they’re interested in someone?

- Do guys analyze too much? If you get a compliment, for example, do you think about why you got it?

- What is the first thing you see in a girl?

- Why do guys say they 'just want to be friends' and then never talk to you again?

The girls (myself included) loved hearing the answers straight from the minds of real guys. While all the guys agreed, they brought 3 different viewpoints on every question.

I closed the night by discussing how guys need respect. As girls/women, we have a certain 'power' over men that can be used to destroy their confidence, passions, and heart or to build them up to be mighty men of God. I challenged the girls to respect all the guys/men in their lives through:

- The way they talk about them

- The way they talk to them

- The way they dress

- The way they act around them

- The way they treat them

knowing that God created both male and female in His image and said 'it is very good.' Next week at REAL girls we are talking about REAL love: love, dating, and sexuality. It should be interesting:)

Eyes like Jesus

2009-04-19T22:06:00.004-05:00

Last Saturday, I was reminded of what my life is all about. While I was standing in the lobby of IHOP, waiting on Mr. O to bring the car around, I noticed an elderly woman talking to a man who was absolutly drenched from the rain. I overheard the woman say something about calling some deacons from her church to help this young man. I was curious so I asked if everything was okay....the young man (probably in his late twenties) looked up to me and just whispered in a sort of plea "I just need a place to stay tonight..." My heart absolutely broke when I saw his desperate, hopeless face and heard his voice. I responded by telling him to wait just a second while I got my boyfriend.

I ran to the car and told Oscar there was someone who needed our help..if we could only get him a hotel room or help him. Oscar didn't even ask me any questions. His immediate response was for me to get out of the rain and he would take care of it. He told the guy (Eddie) to enjoy a nice warm breakfast on him while he found a hotel. While Eddie ate, Oscar and I drove all around looking for a hotel...but he didn't just stop there - Oscar ran into Target and picked up some toilettries, a dry shirt and shorts, a Bible and some essentials for the guy to get by on the next few days.

When we picked Eddie up from IHOP, Oscar began talking to him and getting to know him. Apparently he had made some emotional decisions after his father's death and ended up losing his job, wife, and everything he had. He was desperate. The thing that blew me away was when he turned around in tears and looked at me and said "why would you guys do this for me?" We had a great chance to share of God's love and the hope that Oscar and I have in Christ.

That day I learned several things:

1. I am dating an amazing man...someone who supports my passion and shares my heart for loving others like Christ loved us. He wasn't concerned about the time, money, inconvenience of picking up a stranger and taking care of their needs. He saw a need and went above and beyond to meet that need.

2. People are hurting and need hope. Eddie was a former student of University of Texas with only a few hours left to earning his degree. When his father passed away he was hopeless. He made some poor emotional decisions leaving him with no one to call, nowhere to turn to, and no hope to hold onto.

3. God has called me and created me to love Him by loving others - no matter what the cost. It is in doing this that I am fulfilled and happy.

It was a great eye opener for me. Yes, people need to hear about Christ in church and learn about God's plans in Bible Study... but what about the other people...the people who aren't walking into the doors of the church. Am I showing Christ's love to everyone I meet: at Target, my waitress, in traffic, the people I see? Jesus gave me His eyes for a day and it made all the difference.

So, What's in Your Purse?

2009-04-16T10:40:00.001-05:00

I'm a messy, unorganized girl - especially when it comes to my purse! I realized today that I cannot find anything in my purse because it is so full of random things! So, I decided to take an inventory of the contents of my purse and see what needs to be eliminated...so here is goes..

1. 5 pony tail holders
2. 34 bobby pins
3. Burt's Bees
4. 1 pair of earrings
5. 2 lip gloss
6. 3 pens
7. Checkbook (who carries their checkbook anymore...seriously??)
8. 1 forever 21 tag
9. 3 receipts from Starbucks
10. 1 Cover girl Mascara
11. Victoria's Secret Heaven body spray
12. $1.32 in coins
13. My wallet (which needs a separate post for it's inventory)
14. Keys that look like they belong to a janitor
15. My old school flip phone
16. 1 EMPTY pack of Dentyne Ice gum
17. My passport (Yes, Dad, I know that is not safe to carry that around...)

Well there you have it...feel free to share:)

New High School Series: Sexology

2009-04-14T11:06:00.005-05:00

Over the next 4 weeks, we are doing a series on sex, dating, and relationships entitled Sexology. We are decorating our entire high school room with a 'Prom Theme' to go along with the Prom season for our 7 high schools. I am really excited about this series and theme. This is a great way for our ministry to draw students from prom to our Sunday morning Bible study. Here are some fun elements we are incorporating:

- Each Sunday we are encouraging the students who had prom the previous Saturday to come with their date wearing their prom outfits

- Each week we will have a different leadership couple come dressed in the 'Prom' from their prom year

- The High School room will be decorated for prom

- Funny videos of awkward prom couples

- Great, relevant, and fun lessons on what God's Word says about Sex (What, why's, and when's of sex according to God's Word)

This should be a fun series and a very relevant and timely topic for these students.

The End of Christian America

2009-04-08T09:32:00.002-05:00

I found this very interesting article from Newsweek about the decline in self-proclaimed Christians in America. Check it out here: The End of Christian America

"There it was, an old term with new urgency: post-Christian. This is not to say that the Christian God is dead, but that he is less of a force in American politics and culture than at any other time in recent memory. To the surprise of liberals who fear the advent of an evangelical theocracy and to the dismay of religious conservatives who long to see their faith more fully expressed in public life, Christians are now making up a declining percentage of the American population."

REAL girl Highlight: My REAL Emotions

2009-04-07T09:00:00.002-05:00

Last Sunday night at REAL girls we talked about surviving the roller coaster of Emotions! Here is a brief overview of the night:

6:30-6:50 - Cookies, Pastries, and Coffee

6:50 - 7:00 - Welcome and Weekly Recap

7:00 - 7:10 - Intro topic of Emotions with Group Discussion

I introduced our topic for the night by getting them to talk and open up during a group discussion: Ever have those days when all you want to do is cry? You just want to go home, put on your sweats, lie in your bed, and bawl your eyes out?? Even if there is no real reason for feeling that way..maybe its that time of the month, something weird in a relationship, or who knows!!! We listed out several emotions we have experienced, how these emotions can totally effect our lives, what it means to be labeled as 'emotional'

This was just a fun relaxed way to get the girls thinking about emotions from a personal perspective.

7:10-7:25 - "What's going on in our Bodies when we have Emotions"

I had a female volunteer, who has her Masters in Health Science, to give a scientific perspective on whats going on in our brains and bodies! This was so much fun for the girls. She was very OPEN and HONEST about everything that was happening. We all laughed, got embarrassed, and learned A LOT about the science of how our bodies work. It was a very fun and informative element that added so much to our topic of emotions.

She opened it up for questions at the end. The girls loved this. They all had questions and comments, some of which were very funny and relevant!

7:25-7:45 - How to Survive My REAL Emotions

I challenged the girls on how to deal with their crazy emotions. Here is a brief summary:

God created women, He created emotions, and He put us both together. God created us with the ability to experience emotions. However, he did not create us to be emotion-controlled creatures. Its NO FUN going through life feeling like you’re on an out-of-control emotional roller coaster…

Jeremiah 17:9 says – the heart is hopelessly dark and deceitful, a puzzle that no one can figure out.’
The Negative Side of Trusting our Emotions:
1. They are temporary…they come and go...who knows what tomorrow may hold!?!
2. They are not always accurate- What you perceive to be true and what is really true can be completely different. You can be sincere, but be sincerely wrong
3. Emotional Decision making can cause you to miss out on great things!

(Example: I was very afraid to begin a high school girls Bible study. I felt that girls wouldn't come, I had nothing to say, it would be a total flop! However, with God's help I made a decision that went against my emotions of fear and Christ was able to show me so many amazing things about His plans for me and His plans for these high school girls! Had I acted on my emotion I would have missed out on God's amazing plans)
4. They can get you stuck! (You're emotions can keep you stuck in situations, relationships, etc.... because of fear, insecurity, doubt, loyalty, etc..)
5. They create a ‘drama queen’ - When we continually react to every single emotion we have we become labeled as a 'drama queen' allowing every emotion to run her life...everything is a CRISIS!

The Positive Side of Emotions:

In God's Word we see that Jesus was emotional!! (in the Temple, He wept for Lazarus, He had compassion on the prostitute, etc...)
Focusing on one instance in particular: Mark 14:32-36
- Jesus' desire was for this torment of pain, death, separation, agony to go away. His emotions were high and it says that He wanted out of Gods plan. BUT more than making a rash decision based upon His emotions, He wanted God’s Will. Although He was obviously experiencing all types of emotions, He did not allow them to get in the way of God's plan and God's will.

I believe that many times Satan will try to manipulate and use our emotions to stand in the way of what God wants to do in our lives. He (Satan) knows that, if he can keep us bound up by fear, shame, regret, anger, or whatever it is, he can keep us from walking in all that God has in store for our lives. That is why it is so important to arm ourselves with God's protection. Eph. 6:16 says to hold up the shield of faith to stop the fiery arrows of the devil.

1. When responded to correctly they can help us grow and mature.
2. They give us life! Without emotions we would be robots who go through life eating and sleeping but have no depth.
a. Women are fortunate to be wired with strong emotions! A woman brings life to a group, a home, a family, or wherever she goes! She has the unique ability to express her emotions in an exaggerated fashion - giving joy, peace, love, and excitement!
3. They allow us to ‘feel’ - They can direct us to our passions.
Philippians 4:5-9

Emotions are fleeting, but we can choose how we direct our energy. Instead of nursing our bitterness, we find freedom in choosing to think about things that are good.
Don't fret or worry. Instead of worrying, pray. Let petitions and praises shape your worries into prayers, letting God know your concerns. Before you know it, a sense of God's wholeness, everything coming together for good, will come and settle you down. It's wonderful what happens when Christ displaces worry at the center of your life. Summing it all up, friends, I'd say you'll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious—the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse. Put into practice what you learned from me, what you heard and saw and realized. Do that, and God, who makes everything work together, will work you into his most excellent harmonies.

REAL girls Service Project

2009-04-06T13:27:00.004-05:00

This past Saturday REAL girls participated in a church-wide service day, Serve Katy. We helped an elderly lady from the church with weeding her flower bed, planting new flowers, and mulching. We had 18 girls show up and 4 leaders. It was such a fun activity to serve together! What would have taken this sweet lady a week to accomplish, we knocked out in about 45 minutes! We have some amazing and sweet girls involved in the 210 Student Ministry!

Beach Retreat Volunteers... R U N?

2009-04-03T10:12:00.003-05:00

Being a volunteer at Beach Retreat is one of the most amazing experiences you will ever have. This experience stretches further than a simple 'free week at the beach.' The relationships, connections, life change and memories made on this trip are forever and will most definitely change your life...I know they changed mine. Here is a great video interviewing some of our past volunteers on their personal experience at Beach Retreat... R-U-N?

BR 09 Sign up Now!!!

2009-04-02T07:00:00.003-05:00

Beach Retreat 2009 is just around the corner!! High School Beach Retreat is June 7-12 and it is going to be amazing!! Here are some of the daily videos from last year:

REAL girl Highlight: REAL Beauty

2009-04-01T10:07:00.007-05:00

Last Sunday night at REAL girls we talked about the topic of REAL Beauty. We had such a fun night being girls and talking about how we truly feel about the topic of beauty. Here was the basic line up for the night:

6:30 - 6:50 Brownies & Icecream and alot of chatting

6:50 - 7:00 Welcome and Spring Break Recaps

7:00 - 7:15 I passed out a popular fashion magazine to each table and the girls discussed the different advertisements by examining (1) the product (2) the promise of what it will do for you and (3) the possibilities of how your life will be better. We then discussed the questions:

What are these ads focusing on? what is their goal?
Why do you think these ads are effective?
What makes you want to buy some of these products?
In what ways do the advertised products define who you are?
What desires do these these ads target and what are the promised results (example – If only I had a better complexion, I would be more popular)

This was such a fun and very eye opening exercise for the girls AND for myself. So many advertisements were just throwing lies and unrealistic promises out that we (myself included) actually believe!

7:15 - 7:40 We had a large group discussion on the topic of REAL Beauty. We discussed how when we fall into and believe the lies of what our culture/society define as beauty we become consumed and/or begin playing the 'comparison game'. This path takes us on a road where we are left empty, alone, confused, and unsatisfied.

Here is a brief overview of our discussion:

1 John 2 :15-17 (the Message)
Don't love the world's ways. Don't love the world's goods. Love of the world squeezes out love for the Father. Practically everything that goes on in the world—wanting your own way, wanting everything for yourself, wanting to appear important—has nothing to do with the Father. It just isolates you from him. The world and all its wanting, wanting, wanting is on the way out—but whoever does what God wants is set for eternity.

The common theme of 'Beauty' as defined by our society is the word CHANGE – change your hair from curly to straight, your eyes from brown to blue, your hair from brown to blonde, your weight from whatever you are now to a size double 00 at Abercrombie, your clothes from casual to catwalk chic, change this and that and everything else if you want to be beautiful, successful, and happy…

However the problem with what society defines as 'beauty' is that we are are all unique. No matter what products I buy, labels I wear, or the changes that I make - I can’t become another person. We can chose to be a second rate version of someone else or the first rate version of ourselves.

Matthew 5:5 (the Message) "You're blessed when you're content with just who you are—no more, no less. That's the moment you find yourselves proud owners of everything that can't be bought."

7:40 - 8:00 We made fun bath products such as Oatmeal Milk Bath and a Homeade Bath Salt. This was a fun activity where we interacted and got to talk! Since girls love to talk - they loved it:)

Anyways - thats just a little info on what we are doing at REAL girls. This Sunday is 'My REAL Emotions'. Ill let you know how that goes!

Nickelodeon Kids Choice Awards

2009-03-30T13:59:00.002-05:00

Last night Nickelodeon hosted their annual Kids Choice Awards. Millions of kids (ranging in age from about 6-17) vote for the winners and tune in to watch this show. During this award ceremony the Pussy Cat Dolls performed their song Jai Hoh. They came out decked in bras and leather and sang their new song 'Jai Hoh'. Normally I am not too 'shocked' to see what they display on tv these days, but I was so disturbed when the PCD came out dressed super sexually, singing sexual lyrics, touching their bodies and moving in obviously sexual ways for a performance that is geared to KIDS...I mean really..when did it become okay to perform for KIDS in this way?

Here is the video of their performance:

...here are a few of the lyrics:

I got shivers , When you touch away,
I'll make you hot, Get all you got,
I'll make you wanna say (Jai Ho) (Jai Ho)
I got fever, Running like a fire,
For you I will go all the way, I wanna take you higher
I keep it steady Cuz steady is how I feel it.
This beat is heavy, so heavy, You gon feel it.

No there is nothing that can stop us
Nothing can ever come between us,
So come and dance with me,
Catch me, catch me, catch me, come and catch me, I want you now,
I know you can save me, come and save me, I need you now.
I am yours forever, yes, forever, I will follow, Anywhere in anyway, Never gonna let go.
I'll take you to a place, This fantasy of you and me, I'll never lose the chase.
I can feel you Rushing through my veins, There's an notion in my heart, I will never be the same. Just keep it burnin', yeah baby, Just keep it comin',

Sista, Sista...never knew how much I missed ya...

2009-03-25T07:00:00.001-05:00

Today is my little sister's birthday. Carrianna is the big Double-Deuce (22) today and only a month away from graduating from college! I am praying that God will lead her down to Houston to work as a nurse in one of the many hospitals around here...I would absolutely love to have her close by me again. Carrianna and I were best friends through high school and then also attended the same University for several years. Growing up, especially during the high school years, I learned so much from watching my younger sister. She was always serious abvout her walk with Christ and lived a life that showed others of God's love. She was not easily swayed by what people thought and expected of her, but instead she lived what she believed. I always admired her for that. I was very much the opposite during my teenage years and actually looked to my younger sister as a role model.
If I was going to describe Carrianna is one word it would be 'dramatic'...okay I'm just kidding, although it is pretty fitting..:) I would describe her as 'compassionate'. She is one of the most caring, loving, and genuinely sweet people I know. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that she is going to be the best nurse and do amazing things for God through her vocation and her compassionate heart.

I am so lucky to have both a younger and older sister who have always been there for me, that love God and follow Him with all their hearts, and who have both been wonderful role models in my life. God also blessed my family with a beautiful and sweet sister-in-law who is just as amazing as my two wonderful sisters.

So..long story short - HAPPY BIRTHDAY Carrianna and thank God for sisters:)

More Pictures

2009-03-24T11:44:00.001-05:00

Here are a few more pictures from the High School Mission Trip. Enjoy!

Hangin' Ten at Surfside Beach

2009-03-23T15:58:00.008-05:00

This past Saturday, Mr. O decided I needed to learn to ride the waves. So we packed up his truck and headed down to Surfside Beach. He has been surfing for a long time and is quite the natural. I, on the other hand, have never gone farther in the ocean than waist deep:) Can you believe that I actually caught a few waves and rode all the way to the shore! It had a lot to do with the fact that he was a great teacher and I was using a 10' surfboard...but it was so much fun!! Now I understand why he loves it so much. After my surfing extravaganza I became deathly ill with allergy/sinus problems...but it was absolutly worth it!

I know my sister's just rolled their eyes at this picture....:) Don't hate girls..don't hate

Back from the South

2009-03-21T21:13:00.004-05:00

Well we made it home safe and sound yesterday! We had a great trip and arrived home in Katy, Texas with several new friends, a sunburn, a pile of dirty clothes, and a changed heart! God worked in crazy ways through each of these amazing students who gave up their spring break to work hard and serve Christ and others. Here are a few pictures:)

Mission Trip!

2009-03-15T08:21:00.003-05:00

Tomorrow the high school ministry of Second Baptist Church will leave for the week to partner with Way of the Cross Ministries in Harlingen, Texas. I am so excited about this trip. We have a smaller group of kids going which will allow me to really get to know these girls and develop lasting relationships with each one of them! Pray for us as we head way down south that God will use us to bless others and also change our hearts. Ill have lots of pictures to show when I get back:)

Prom on a Budget

2009-03-11T16:31:00.003-05:00

Prom is just around the corner! With today's economy, everyone is looking for ways to save money - especially on PROM which can get REALLY expensive REALLY quickly. Here is a great little article with some fun ways to "cut your prom costs in half and not even feel it!"

Check it out here: PROM SPOT

Cooking 101

2009-03-10T09:04:00.007-05:00

Last Saturday night, Mr. O and I attended our very first cooking class at The Viking Cooking School. It was so much fun! Our menu for the night was an antipasto consisting of yummy grilled vegetables with a delicious anchovy sauce (i know I just said anchovies but it really was tasty), a roasted potato salad with a mustard vinaigrette, sweet/spicy shrimp, a Mediterranean style chicken, and homemade mint chocolate chip ice cream with homemade waffle cones. In the words of Fergie it was "Tasty, tasty..."

Also, I would like to introduce you to my new pride and joy - Wendy. Yes, Wendy is the name of my new Bike and I just love her! Mr. O bought her for me this weekend. Isn't she the cutest little thing you ever saw???

Sexting leads to Teen Suicide

2009-03-06T07:27:00.003-06:00

I saw this story of the Today Show this morning and it absolutely broke my heart. Jesse Logan, a beautiful teenage girl committed suicide in her own home when she just couldn't take it any more. Her ex-boyfriend forwarded nude photos, meant only for him, to hundreds of people after their relationship ended. She was forever marked in her school as a 'whore' and the 'girl that just wanted attention.' After graduating from high school she attended the funeral of a friend who had committed suicide and went home to follow suite.

This story just broke my heart. A beautiful teenage girl who saw no hope, no escape from her mistakes. We need to be aware that this is what is happening and the pain, guilt, and regret is absolutely devastating to a teenager in the moment. So devastating that one would take their own life just to escape it.

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This Sunday at 210 High School Ministry

2009-02-27T16:36:00.004-06:00

This Sunday, we have A LOT of crazy fun things planned for the 210 High School Ministry. During the 11:00 High School service we have Coffey Anderson joining us. Anderson is an amazing musician and also from the reality tv show "Nashville Star."

You can check out a sample of Coffey below:

Also -for the High School girls:

REAL girls begins this Sunday night at 6:30! I am so excited to begin our study on becoming the REAL girl that God creatd us to be. Grab a friend and come on out for some relaxed, fun girl talk!

Ford MyKey

2009-02-25T14:28:00.003-06:00

So I just heard about Ford's new idea called the MyKey...this is a programmable key that lets parents control the speed and radio volume inside the vehicle. It can also sound an alarm to remind their teens to buckle up. Apparently this is made to give parents control and a little piece of mind while their teen is behind the wheel.

This will become standard on half of Ford’s cars beginning in 2010 and complete by 2011. Unfortunately you cannot add a MyKey to an existing car.
You can have up to 4 keys with one key being the admin (parent) key. That key is used to turn the MyKey features on or off and change any settings. This is one complex little key. Here are some of the things it allows the parent to view, control, and manage:

1. It allows the the parent to view the MyKey odometer letting you see how many miles your teen is putting on the car.
2. It allows parents to control the volume of the radio,
3. By sounding an alarm it encourages seat belt use
4. It allows the parent to monitor and control the car’s speed.

Each feature can be turned on or off independently. As weird as this sounds, kids don’t seem to bothered by it. According to a poll conducted by Ford, as long as they get to drive they don’t mind a few limits, some chimes and dashboard messages. Another perk of this snazzy little key is that insurance companies may start to give discounts for families with MyKey cars.
Fords hopes behind this little contraption is to help reduce teen's risky driving behavior by putting a 'psuedo-parent' in the car with them. Pretty crazy huh...

Visit Ford MyKey for more information

Shhh...It's a Secret

2009-02-24T08:39:00.003-06:00

We all have a secret..or two..or three.. Many times we use secrets to 'stay in control' and hide from our reality (who we really are and what is really going on). However, secrets are powerful and usually lead to guilt, fear, and captivity.

A few years ago a the 'Post Secret' project emerged. This was and is an ongoing community mail art project where people decorate one side of a homemade postcard with a secret that has never before been revealed to anyone and mail it in to Frank Warren, the creator of this popular 'secret' community. Your postcard is obviously done anonymous allowing you the freedom to be real and completely honest about something that you are hiding in your life. In college, my friend Ruthie and I would go to Barnes and Noble and read through these entire booklets full of people's deep (and oftentimes very dark) secrets revealed for all the world to see. It was a 'freeing' experience because you could finally get it off your chest. These secrets ranged from "I am having an affair" to "I oftentimes think about ways to kill myself." People were being real...but with who? A postcard?

Secrets are a dangerous thing. A lot of times we create secrets because we are afraid what people will think, what will happen, what will change if we are real and honest about our lives. I have learned that it is so important to let these high school students know that they don't have to put on a mask for me or for anyone. When we meet during counseling sessions or just sit and visit, I normally start my conversation off with "Listen, you cannot say anything that is going to shock me or cause me to think you are a weird bad person. I want you to be YOU, to be real about what's going on. I care about you and want to help you!"

(This statement has to be said after much prayer asking God for wisdom and strength, because they normally lay it down and open up to a world of problems and issues that I myself, am totally and completely inadequate to handle)

In a nationwide survey of over 2,000 young women, Dr. Jill Hubbard, author of Secrets Young Women Keep found the 'Top Secrets Young Women Keep': (listed in order)

1. Family Problems

2. Friends I hangout with

3. Hating the way I look

4. I don't exercise

5. Popularity at school

6. Depression

7. Music I listen to

8. Having sex

9. Smoking

10. Alcohol/Drug Use

11. Ignoring God

12. Debt/Spending Habits

13. I don't like myself

14. Cutting

15. Cheating in School

16. Lost my virginity

17. Eating disorders

18. Pregnancy/Sexual Abuse

19. Fake Faith

20. Pornography

21. Suicidal Thoughts

22. Piercing

23. Family Heritage/Race

24. Speeding Ticket

25. Physical Abuse

26. Tattoos

What's your secret? Try telling someone...someone who is older, wiser, and mature in their faith....someone who loves you and will help you overcome and deal with whatever secret you may be hiding. Revealing a secret will free you from bondage and allow you to begin taking HUGE steps in your walk with Christ!

Young and Stupid?

2009-02-20T10:20:00.004-06:00

Recently several popular young athletes, superstars, and role models have been caught in public scandals. There has been a common trend running through their comments and 'apologies' regarding their 'mistake' (ranging from injecting steroids, drug use, or allegedly beating your girlfriend) to their young age and lack of discernment.

In an article from the Washington Post, Garfinkle says:

"Apology is not about placing blame on your age, your circumstance or your emotional state. It's not about saving your career. And it's not about the person making the apology. Apologies, as I tell my boys over and over and over again, are about feeling truly bad about what you've done to someone else and making everything as right as you can. When you've done something wrong to someone, you simply look them in the eye and tell them so."

I just found this to be a pretty interesting thought. So many children and teens look up to these superstars, whether that is good or bad, and they see this type of behavior being excused with a simple "oops, im young and stupid.." excuse.

Check out this great article from the Washington Post here: Young and Stupid

Spring Break '09

2009-02-19T09:09:00.005-06:00

Need Spring Break plans??? This spring break the 210 High School ministry is partnering with the Way of the Cross Ministries to minister to the people of Matamoros, Mexico. We will be doing different service project such as Vacation Bible School, medical clinics, church building, house painting, and distribution of food, clothes and toys. This is an amazing opportunity for our high school students to share the love and message of Jesus Christ. It will be an unforgettable week and a lifechanging experience for our high school ministry!

REAL Girls

2009-02-18T09:00:00.011-06:00

In March I will begin REAL girls - a new Sunday night Bible study group geared specifically to the high school girls of the 210 Student Ministry. I am so excited to have a chance to build relationships and connect with the girls on a relaxed, casual, and personal level.

REAL things are rare, unique, valuable, and precious. They are untainted, raw, in their natural form, pure, the 'original' and genuine (i.e. diamonds, gold, pearls, a real Louis Vuitton Bag...) Being REAL should be easy, I mean isn't is simply being who we really are? But so many times I catch myself trying to be everything BUT real. Trying to add more, be this, look like her, act like that...It's no fun, not satisfying, and exhausting. This study will focus on becoming the REAL girl that God created you to be - not a "knock-off" or a "wannabe" but being the REAL you. We will be discussing different topics following this theme such as:

- The REAL you
(identity, purpose, unique talents and abilities)

- My REAL Life
(families, divorce, parents, etc...)

- REAL Beauty in our REAL World
(body image, beauty, advertisements, media, etc...)

- MY REAL Emotions
(dealing with a broken heart, sadness, depression, anger, hurt, fear, etc...)

- REAL Friends
(mean girls, gossip girl, no friends, hurting friends, etc...)

- REAL Boys
(missionary dating, unREAL romance, help! I don't have a boyfriend, help! I'm stuck in a relationship!)

- REAL Heart
(loving others as Christ loves us, leading through serving, giving, helping, encouraging, using our abilities to love others)

I am so excited to see what God has planned for the girls of the 210 Student Ministry. If you think about it, please pray that God will guide my heart and give me wisdom as I begin to lead and develop this program and that He will prepare the hearts of the amazing girls that will attend!

Ahoy Mate!

2009-02-16T13:00:00.010-06:00

On Saturday, Mr. O and I put on our topsiders and began our adventure - and it was just that - an adventure! I don't know why but I always imagined 'sailing' to be some luxurious event where I wore a cute sun dress, my hair blowing in the breeze, while I basked in the sun...well, I was wrong! Sailing takes a lot of work! Oscar and I had an absolute blast and were actually able to learn a lot. We were led on our voyage by Cap'n Lewis - a salty mariner of the deep blue. He was hilarious and we had so much fun! Lewis put us both to work having Oscar raise the jib while I was asked to 'release the main'. I quickly set Lewis straight by telling him I was new to this sailing business and he needed calm down his sailing vocabulary with me. We laughed alot, learned a few things, and had a great valentine's day out of the water! I think Oscar might just be purchasing a sailboat in the near future...he was hooked!

Cap'n Lewis of the TradeWind

Happy Valentine's Day!

2009-02-14T07:00:00.001-06:00

Happy Valentines Day!! Today, Oscar and I are headed down near Kema, Tx where we are going sailing all afternoon on a 37' sailboat then headed to get some yummy greek food! I've never been sailing before so this should be interesting. I'm sure I will have some fun pictures and stories to share....I am so excited!

Hope you have a fabulous Valentine's Day - I know I will!

210 Student Highlight: The High School Dating Scene Part 2

2009-02-13T06:00:00.001-06:00

Well I surveyed 2 more girls about the high school dating scene. Both of these girls are actively involved within the 210 Student Ministry. Here is what real teen girls are saying about dating:

Girl #1 - Freshman

Girl #2 - Junior

Are you dating anyone?

Girl #1 - no !

Girl #2 - no i am not dating anyone but at schooll its about half and half. not a ton of people dating though.

Are your parents cool with you dating?

Girl #1 - my mom is more than my dad, but neither mind

Girl #2 - for me with my parents, it depends. they have to meet the guy and get to know him, but they're pretty much okay with dating. for a lot of teens though i feel like they probably don't care about how their parents feel or maytbe their parents don't even know they are dating.

Is there anyone that you are 'crushing' on or someone that you wish you were dating?

Girl #1 -haha yessss, interested!

Girl #2 - haha well yes definetly someone i like. long story

What are two things that parents don't understand about dating (or that you wished they knew about dating)

Girl #1 -thats its like he's one of your best friends, just you spend way more time with him than any other guys. -sometimes the guy puts on this "real nice guy" in front of your parents.. but in reality he can be SO bipolar and rude, so your mom doesn't get what your talking about b/c she thinks he is just oh so great!

Girl #2 - one thing i think they don't understand is that its not at all the same as it was when they were in high school. like friends dont just go to a movie and dinner together just because anymore really. i wish it coulkd be like that but its not at all.

What does it mean to be 'in a relationship' with someone? define what that means to you...

Girl #1 - for me i have long relationships so even if we get into an arguement or something, we work everything out.. and don't just break up. its like you chill with him a lot and talk to him constantlyyy. and don't have to worry about impressing anyone cause you know that you have him and don't need to impress anyone else!

Girl #2- right now being in a relationship to me means you like him he likes you and your goin to call each other boyfriend girlfriend.its someone you like to be around and want to get to know better and see what you like. some get way serious into it down the road and some decide they were just better off as friends.

Does 'dating' scare you?

Girl #1 -no, if it did at any point.. i would get outta the situation.break up..oh yes that scares me! cause its sadddd and hurts.

Girl #2 - no dating doesnt scare me, i think it's fun and i dont' think it scares many people unless maybe your shy or have had a bad experience.

Define/describe a typical date...

Girl #1 -movies, or just hang out with him at either house i guess hahah

Girl #2 - typical date.... first date prob dinner and a movie with aother couple thats your friends just to make it easier. 2nd date prob just the two of you to dinner and a movie.

Do most couples you know have a physical relationship (meaning they hook up or have sex)

Girl #1 - hook up yes, and yeahhh most older couples like upperclassmen prettyy much all do. so much pressureeeeeee omgsh! and not even from like the guys, its the girls that act like its "okay"

Girl #2 - yes, definetly majority of the couples i know definetly do.

2009-02-12T09:19:00.003-06:00

So much sadness in this world! James, one of my dearest friends lost his precious 11-month-old niece, Cora, after being diagnosed with cancer only 3 weeks earlier. My heart just hurts and aches for this sweet young family and the journey that they have just begun.

James is one of my dearest friends. During my senior year of college when I felt that my world had fallen apart, James was one of those true friends who was there for me - praying, encouraging, and comforting me. I am praying that God will reveal His undescribable Joy and His Word will come alive to this family. If you have a chance please lift up this family to God. As my sister mentioned in her blog '...take heart, I have overcome the world" John 16:33.

You can follow this family's story at http://themcclenahans.blogspot.com

Feelings of Abandonment

2009-02-11T10:18:00.007-06:00

One huge trend that I am seeing in the lives of many girls that I meet with and talk to is deep feelings of loneliness and abandonment. Many teens of this generation do not trust adults and have a very cynical outlook on marriage, adults, and authority. Several factors contribute to these deep feelings of abandonment and loneliness that are so common in today's teenagers: (taken from Saving Generation Y)

1. Unstable homes or conflict within homes (Divorce, Separation, death etc...).
2. Home alone…parents/adult figures are not there (Busy parents, growing up alone).
3. Let down in the past by adults/others in the past.

When these factors are present in a teens life they oftentimes try to fill that emptiness and deal with their pain by:

1. Looking for acceptance.
2. Searching for safety.
3. Looking for someone to love them.

With all these crazy emotions and feelings that these teenagers are experiencing, they desperately need adults in their lives who love them and point them to Christ's unending love.

Youth Leaders: These teens need complete compassion: "to actually share so much in their suffering that you are willing to actively seek a way to walk with that individual through their suffering" (Jason Wallace, Saving Generation Y). Teens will not be receptive to you unless your compassion is CONSISTENT. Remember - these teens already are hesitant with adults. They do not trust you because of their past experiences and are anticipating you to also abandon them. They must see that you have a sincere love for them - you love them for who they really are, you don't want anything from them but you want to care for, listen to, and stand with you as you develop.

Parents: Remember your goal as their parent -to make sure your children have had the best and clearest opportunity to experience and have a deep relationship with God. Providing for their physical needs (financial support, education and safety) are obviously your responsibilities as the parent, but your actions and the example of your life is to point your child to their Creator. Their relationship with Christ will be the compass that directs their steps...without that compass they will wander and remain lost in a crazy mixed up world!

Teenagers are growing up fast and many of them have no significant adult involved in their life to help them make decisions, sort out their emotions, and point them to Christ.
We have to understand and study their world if we want to be truly help them in bringing consistency, security and the care they need. It takes time to break down walls, but if we are consistent in pursuing a relationship with these teens, they will see it and respond.

Get with the Program: TXTing Lingo

2009-02-10T15:05:00.005-06:00

The other day I was at lunch with some friends from work when their 2 year old son grabbed his mom's IPhone and began scrolling through until he found the bowling game that he loves to play. He manueverd that phone like a little gadget pro! I was amazed. It made me realize that if you do not know how to communicate digitally in today's world you are WAY behind!

Decoding a text message can be rather complex if you do not know the 'lingo'. Many new abbreviations and words have developed out of the new age of texting, messaging, emails, and digital communication. If you need some help tranlating a text message visit Lingo2word.com .. it is actually pretty funny - you can type in your text message and it will translate it for you!

Here are a few little abbreviations from On Teens Today that you might want to learn to help make you a little more TXTNG SVY (Texting Savvy) :

1. 2MORO - TOMORROW

2. 2NT - TONIGHT

3. ILY - I LOVE YOU

4. ADR – ADDRESS

5. WTG - WAY TO GO

6. LOL - LAUGH OUT LOUD

7. BZ - BUSY

8. DNBL8 - DO NOT BE LATE

9. WBS - WRITE BACK SOON

10. GR8 – GREAT

11. PLZ - PLEASE

12. BRB - BE RIGHT BACK

13. IDK - I DON'T KNOW

14. BFF - BEST FRIEND FOREVER

In Your Senior Year of High School

2009-02-10T09:48:00.006-06:00

There is a little 'survey' going around on Facebook asking questions about your senior year of high school. I thought it would be pretty funny to fill out and remember what life was like back in 2003 [caution: my life has changed a lot since that time:)]

1. Did you date someone from your school? Yes

2. Did you marry someone from your high school? NO WAY

3. Did you car pool to school? just shuttled around my siblings

4. What kind of car did you have? A White Dodge Caravan...:) Yeah - I was cool

5. What kind of car do you have now? Honda Accord

6. Its Saturday night...where are you now? Probably eating somewhere yummy with my cute boyfriend

7. It is Saturday night...where were you then? Playing sports or hanging out with my family

8. What kind of job did you have in high school? I worked at Bi-Lo Grocery as a cashier (my parents made me quit because I began liking the 18yr old butcher boy...oh the drama)

9. What kind of job do you do now? work with teenagers!!!

10. Were you a party animal? I wanted to be

11. Were you considered a flirt? probably

12. Were you in band, orchestra, or choir? school choir but only because I had to be

13. Were you a nerd? no-but I was the Physics Champion..yeah..maybe I was a nerd

14. Did you get suspended or expelled? actually..YES..I got suspended my sr. year

15. Can you sing the fight song? Haha..fight song?? yeah right... my school was tiny

16. Who was/were your favorite teacher(s)? Eric Holt - my Math teacher.

17. Where did you sit during lunch? in the lunchroom with the seniors

18. What was your school's full name? Fairview Christian Academy

19. When did you graduate? 2003

20. What was your school mascot? Falcons

21. If you could go back and do it again, would you? No way jose

22. Did you have fun at Prom? yeah..we didn't have prom..we had 'banquets' and they were stuffy and boring. but I did get to dress up so that was fun

23. Do you still talk to the person you went to Prom with? no

24. Are you planning on going to your next reunion? no thanks

25. Do you still talk to people from school? some of them

26. School Colors? Blue and Gray.

27. What celebrities came from your high school? umm..me :)

The Weekend

2009-02-08T12:34:00.005-06:00